Sunday, October 4, 2015

Be Inspired To Inspire

"Everyone has a purpose in life ... a unique gift or special talent to give to others.  And when we blend this unique talent with service to others, we experience the ecstasy and exultation of our own spirit, which is the ultimate goal of all goals."
~ Dr. Deepak Chopra, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success

Have you ever ponder about your purpose in this world?  What are you meant to do ... to make the world a little better than it was?  Sounds like a gargantuan responsibility right?

We always say that God created everyone with a purpose but we are left to find that purpose on our own.  It is not easy and at most times many of us got lost, distracted or detoured along the way.  Most of us just go into a monotonous mode repeating the daily rituals of complacent living.

Yet when we started out in search of our life purpose, the first thing that comes to mind will always be to help others in need.  Realistically, how can we even help others when we have just begun to think of our own life purpose?  We are still in our comfort zone.  We need help to kick ourselves out of our complacency first!

Rather than pushing our way into other people's lives bearing our ideals, it would be more effective to apply those ideals onto ourselves first.  Subtly,  let our actions and positive changes become the inspiration to those who want to help themselves.  We'll be pretty much paying it forward.

Naturally, the first step to help us change is to look for role models.  People who have successfully made changes that meet the ideals we have in mind.  

I see many sources of inspiration in the local running community.  I have had the opportunities to meet and be inspired by these ordinary people, men and women alike, who are determined and focused to push their limits through their passion.  These people do not live in the comfort zone.  They continually strive to better their previous achievements.  They've shown me that anything is possible once you've set your mind to do it!

Most of them started running 10km before they move on to half-marathons and marathons.  The more determined ones will move on to ultra marathons that can reach up to 100 miles or even ultra-trail marathons of varied distances and grueling terrains.

Frankly, running isn't my passion.  I run on a 'have-to' basis to keep my diabetes under control.  But being inspired can change the mindset.  I have found my role model and her courage has encouraged me to test my limits outside of my comfort zone.  It is not to say that if she can do it, for sure I can too nor do I want to do exactly as she has.  It is more important for me to emulate her strong willpower, determination and focus to achieve what she's set out to do ... completing various marathons, ultra-marathons, ultra-trail marathons, triathlons and then Ironman.

In my eyes, she is a superwoman and unconsciously she has given permission to others including me, to be as courageous as her.  I am sure this is the purpose God had in store for her.

Saturday, October 3, 2015

The Perceived Self-Confidence

Someone told me, "You're very self-confident!". But the same person had also said that my confidence can be intimidating too.  Alright I get it! 

I'm a very confident person to the extent that people feel intimidated by me.  Really ... is it my fault?

My confidence is built on a half century's life experiences, knowledge and skills.  You can know my name but not my story.  You can hear and see what I can do but not the journey I've been through to realize them.  I've been to hell and back but I absorbed ... I compromised ... I learned ... I adapted ... I improvised ... I apologized and I forgave.  So please don't be too quick to judge me for you don't know the battles I've fought to be able to put my value on your table.  This is me and do not expect me to change for any lesser.

Somehow it is so easy to judge from afar.  If you were to step into my shoes today and walk in them, you will know the mounting pressure I'm facing as I only have 2 more weeks left to meet my 35km mark in my mileage training.  One week of tapering after that and it's do or DNF!

Being a second try at this annual running event is not helping.  As the day draws near, the confidence is fast waning.  Right now, I must admit I am battling with myself not chicken out into a DNS!

Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Unmasking The True Colors

People who moves within my circle knows that I am a no-nonsense kind of person.  I am one who will call a spade a spade ... no less and no more.  As such, I will not have any respect for anyone who comes on as being pretentious, superficial or egoistic.

In my opinion, when you are not who you truly are, any false pretenses to be good or bad will never last.  Once you've reached your comfort zone, your veils will be lifted layer by layer.  Each layer depletes whatever respect that I may have for your in the first place.

Call me arrogant but this is just who I am!

For the past 3 months, I've had the opportunity to observe how certain people in my work team have started to reveal their true colors. We are all drawn into a small work pool as strangers and just like a job interview and the subsequent probationary period, people tend to put on a mask either to protect their privacy or to hide their inferiority.  The danger is who will be revealed when the mask is removed.

Today, I've had to console a team-mate who had just completed her 3rd month with us.  She was in tears as she shared the pressure and stress piled on her by a bullying team leader and of late, another team-mate who has chosen to follow suit.  Somehow, dignity at work has been erased!

Where is the team spirit?  The essence of teamwork towards building a successful business!

And there are less than 10 people in this work pool right now.  What will happen when it grows to 100?!

I guess they call it "POLITICS!" ... mind you, the word "OFFICE" has been intentionally omitted as we all work from home!

Anyway, with true colors unmasked, humility gone and team spirit extinguished, can this work pool even survive the next one or two years???