Monday, December 31, 2012

My Bubble: Where Have I Been?

Time has certainly passed very quickly and I realized I have not been updating my blog for the past few months. Really, where have I been? 

Lots have been going on these past months on the home-front for me. Firstly I was engrossed with my first book ghostwriting which was really exciting while at the same time scary. Not to disappoint my client, I wanted to put my entire focus on it. Thankfully I managed to finished the book as agreed in the agreement. 

Then there was the renovation works that took effect at my new condominium sometime end of October. What was supposed to be a 6-week renovation was delayed by more than a week with several mistakes encountered that I had to visit the site almost every day. Soon the relocation begins. What a big mess trying to downsize the home from a double-storey terrace into a 2-bedroom 900sf condo unit. Lots of dumping, giveaways and cheap sales. Next was to clean-up the old place before handing vacant possession back to the landlord.

Christmas came and went and wishing all my friends in the blogosphere as very Merry Christmas. Now it is the last day of 2012. Just in time for me to join my friends to bid a fantastic year ‘sayonara’ and welcome the new year … 2013.

Monday, December 3, 2012

Affirmation of the Week ...

With the current year coming to an end and the beginning of a new year just round the corner, I am both pleased and grateful that everything that I have planned for the year had been going almost perfectly as scheduled. While there may be some hiccups along the way, they only spurred me to work harder while remaining composed. I look forward to fulfilling the rest of my plans for 2012 with an eager anticipation.

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Poetry: Morning

By D. Anthony

From my unknowing slumber, I awake to find a new day
And for the split second it takes to accumulate my wits
I subconsciously pause to ponder, to reflect
On Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow ... on myself

Shall I focus on ...
The sorrow that found me and ruined my yesterday
Or the fact that I got through it, challenged yet okay

Shall I focus on ...
The aches that more and more often come my way
Or the wisdom of years that grows stronger everyday

Shall I focus on ...
Relationships lost, missed loved ones taken away
Or friends and family here now loving me each day

Shall I focus on ...
The lost manners, the lack of courtesy people display
Or the smiles derived from the Thank You's that I say

Shall I focus on ...
The stress, the difficulties that seem to come my way
Or the amazing power I possess to make an impact today

A second later a familiar realization lights the way
Yesterday is no longer mine to contemplate
And Tomorrow never was
All I really have is Today and Myself
I stretch, smile, and decide to open my eyes
I will not waste another second of this gift ... My New Day

* Excerpt from the motivational and inspirational book, The Nurse in the Delivery Room Slapped Me... Once *

Saturday, November 10, 2012

My Bubble: Am I Superficial?

Superficial people. While there are some who are like that for sometime until they grow out of it, there are some who grow old with it. But it is fair to note that not all people are superficial.

I am concerned about myself. Am I superficial?

I am definitely not talking about superficiality in my well-intended offers as a friend or a kin or in my encouragements and compliments to anyone, strangers alike. But when I think of the spiteful intentions I harbor while I am angry, is it safe to think I am superficial?

When I am consumed with anger, a battle ground between good and evil explodes in my mind. The angry side wants to exact revenge but the positive me fights to put out the flame. As the battle rages, time lapsed ... and often than not, the anger will subsides fortunately. However that's not the end to the spiteful thoughts inside my head. It still lingers!

Yet maybe it could be that I am cowardly to go through with my spiteful intentions or it is simply because I am reasonably quick at forgiving. After all the hostility in my heart and in my head, I am still incapable of turning away 'a so-called friend' in need. I guess I'm just a sucker for sob stories. Being a little wiser though, I tread with care in order not to be burned again! Somehow I feel so superficial!

It's for the best!
“And perhaps there is a limit to the grieving that the human heart can do. As when one adds salt to a tumbler of water, there comes a point where simply no more will be absorbed.” ― Sarah Waters, The Little Stranger

Perhaps and thankfully, it must be my subconscious self that has guided me to walk away and move on from the people and situations that no longer have my interest at heart. This way I do not harbor any guilt and I will not feel superficial. Moreover, I am expanded positively to receive greater opportunities.

Friday, November 9, 2012

My Bubble: I Am Quick To Forgive!

Forgiveness does not come easy for most of us. It is only natural for us to recoil in self-protection when we get hurt. Most people are not going to have an outpouring of mercy, grace and forgiveness, that's for sure!

I am no exception but in most cases, I'd always choose to walk away quietly. I will remove myself from these negative influences. After all, forgiveness will not necessarily lead to a healed relationship. Moreover, even it does, things are just not the same anymore! Forgiving is easier but to forget?

I have a thorn in my side that is growing more prickly each day. However, each time I complained about it, I am influxed with messages of forgiveness ... somehow somewhere the Lord is telling me the obvious!

I know forgiveness is a choice and I have managed it many times before. This time should not be any different but I guess I am struggling because the person is hard to be ignored when she's staying under my roof right now.

My consolation ... we're parting ways in less than 2 months! So close my eyes ... ignore ignore ignore and I want to tell myself "I am quick to forgive!"

"Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. 
Forgive as the Lord forgave you." 
 ~ Colossians 3:13

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Poetry: Life Is Opportunity!

Life is Opportunity
by Craig Nicholson

Life is opportunity!
Every day,
All seem it gray,
Can stimulate new thought.

Chance is not what rules the world
There's purpose everywhere,
It's just for us to recognise
The pearl that's waiting there.

The opportunity for us,
To learn and serve and grow.
The harder that the 'problem' seems
The higher we can go.

What is ours will come to us,
So fear becomes inept.
Just find the gift in everything
And we'll become adept.

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Note of Awareness #58

The law of attraction works in the pursuit of spiritual desire just as it does for worldly things. To be aligned with the Infinite Being is to merge the twin engines of faith and belief. To achieve great accomplishments starts from within you … from your faith and your belief.  Faith makes all things possible.

Are you spiritually connected?

It does not matter if you believe in Christianity, Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism, Judaism or any other, when you nurture the seeds of divinity in you, you become connected with your energy, the Universe and the Infinite One. You become at peace with yourself and the world around you. The law of attraction makes it possible to open the door to your spiritual consciousness and guides you to the means to help yourself and also others.

Monday, November 5, 2012

Affirmation of the Week ...

It's been an emo-time these past few days. Well as usual, when the storm is over the dusts settle. Everything is looking and feeling fine again. It is a fresh new week and I intend to be in control ... to be calm and relaxed!

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Sunday, November 4, 2012

What Am I Grateful For This Week ...

I have been lazy ... yup, a lazy bone this past two days.  Incidentally, I have had a little emo-time too due to some disagreements with lo kong.  Well, the storms kinda over and the dusts' all settled.  All is almost well again.

Arguments between husband and wife is not uncommon.  We have had countless since we affirmed our vows more than 20 years ago.  It has been proven times over that no real marriage exists without healthy arguments and disagreements.  They are a normal part of a healthy marriage.  Both spouses feel free to express their thoughts, emotions and needs which sometimes inadvertently led to expressions of anger.  Anger is still a healthy part of a relationship if it is properly expressed.

A marriage without the healthy arguments and disagreements is probably going to be monotonous, dull and boring. However, at the end of the day, a marriage is learning to let the little things pass.  After our temperatures have cooled, I am thankful that both of us are able to see pass the angry words that flew all over the place at every disagreements.

"Wasn't marriage, like life, unstimulating and unprofitable and somewhat empty when too well ordered and protected and guarded?  Wasn't it finer, more splendid, more nourishing, when it was, like life itself, a mixture of the sordid and magnificent; of mud and stars; of earth and flowers; of love and hate and laughter and tears and ugliness and beauty and hurt?" 
~ Edna Ferber, Show Boat [1926]

Thursday, November 1, 2012

Note of Awareness #57

"If you are complaining, the law of attraction will powerfully bring into your life more situations for you to complain about. If you are listening to someone else complain and focusing on that, sympathizing with them, agreeing with them, in that moment, you are attracting more complaining situations to yourself!"

To complain about your situation to people around you is to make a public statement that you do not have control over your own life.  Complaining is a low self-trait that brings a negative influence over any conversations or discussions.  It not only disempowers you but also the people around you too!

The law of attraction is not biased and it does not differentiate between the right and the wrong or the good and the bad.  It is based upon the fact that the energy in your body and mind are always vibrating at different frequencies. It merely responds to your thoughts and emotions that influences these frequencies you are sending out into the larger world. Sadly, what you intensely focused on will be continually return to you ... it is like throwing a boomerang that subsequently returns.

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Poetry: Find Cheer In Your Tear

Find Cheer In Your Tear
*A poem to cheer someone up from PoemVidz*

I know life seems rough today
But there’s always tomorrow
Find hope in what you dismay
Do not bind yourself to sorrow

Find strength inside your tears
Formed from heartfelt compassion
Wisdom gained from many years
Of moments birthed in passion

Find cheer in the revelation
That hope prevails over despair
That life presents celebration
In this existence that we share

Find solace in your soul
That you are so unique
Faith be the golden rule
When happiness you seek

Monday, October 29, 2012

Affirmation of the Week ...

"If you have time to whine and complain about something then you have the time to do something about it." ~ Anthony J. D'Angelo

This is so true and I intend to do something about it. I have a thorn in my side and I have succumbed as a victim by complaining. It is ugly and on hindsight, it makes me feel guilty.  It builds bad vibes and I do not want to affect others around me. I shall stop complaining!

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Sunday, October 28, 2012

What Am I Grateful For This Week ...

Life is really an oasis of educational experiences.  That is if we are willing to let go of our fear, obsession and ego and pick up the valuable lessons behind each of these experiences ... good and bad.  After all, this is how our wisdom comes about ... we learn and learn and learn from each and every experience that life throws at us.

Everyone has definitely heard of this popular phrase coined by Dale Carnegie ... "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade."

Sounds like a very simple outlook but life is actually simple.  It's just that most people, me as guilty to one point in time, tend to complicate things.  We look for solutions at the hardest corners and from the most difficult angle when it is right there under our noses ... why?  Because we gave our problems, circumstances or conditions prominence ... perhaps we are all natural born prima donnas.  Celebrating problems to gain attention but the truth of it all is that no one can change a thing for us!  We just have to suck it in and be grateful for all the stuffs that are already going well in our life ... the calm that follows will come with the solutions we much needed.

Gratitude is the most effective healer to cast out our temperamental and inflated self-obsession and egoism in order to realize that life is simply an oasis of great opportunities to turn each lemons we received into a variety of lemonades.  Yes, why must we only enjoy the same standard lemonades?  Any preschooler would know how to make one for us!  We are all adults ... let's use our creativity to concoct some new flavours that we will love and who knows others may like it too!

Having gratitude does not mean we must have it all in our life.  Neither is it impossible even when we're downtrodden, in ill-health, out of love or out of money.  It's entirely up to you how you choose to look at your life and decide your list of things that you can be thankful for.  Open your heart, open your mind!  As for me, I am grateful for being grateful.

1.  I am grateful to have a supportive family ... I know through thick and thin I can always rely on them!
2.  I am grateful for my supportive friends ... a special cherished league of friends!
3.  I am grateful for my health ... my diabetes is under control.
4.  I am grateful for new home ... my envisioned decor taking shape as the renovation continues.
5.  I am grateful for the money-making opportunities that have come my way.
6.  I am grateful for the inspirations and motivations that magically appears whenever I needed them.
7.  I am grateful for the mindful hints that continuously appear to remind me to be watchful over my thoughts, words, feelings and actions without any compromises of being myself.
8.  I am grateful that I am able to find all sorts of things I can be grateful for!

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Poetry: My Creed

My Creed
By Edgar A. Guest

To live as gently as I can;
To be, no matter where, a man;
To take what comes of good or ill
And cling to faith and honor still;
To do my best, and let that stand
The record of my brain and hand;
And then, should failure come to me,
Still work and hope for victory.

To have no secret place wherein
I stoop unseen to shame or sin;
To be the same when I’m alone
As when my every deed is known
To live undaunted, unafraid
Of any step that I have made;
To be without pretense or sham
Exactly what men think I am.

To leave some simple mark behind
To keep my having lived in mind,
If enmity to aught I show,
To be an honest, generous foe,
To play my little part, nor whine
That greater honors are not mine.
This, I believe, is all I need
For my philosophy and creed.

Monday, October 22, 2012

Affirmation of the Week ...

Everyday is as good as any day. It all depends on how we are going to make of it. Rather than wasting our imagination thinking of the past we can't change or the future we have yet to know, I would rather spent my creativity and energy on the Now. The present is what I have power over and from Now I have the power to change the outlook of my future to more of what I would love and enjoy.

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Sunday, October 21, 2012

What Am I Grateful For This Week ...

I have been lazy!  Yes you heard right ... I have been lazy these weekend!  Maybe it's because I've had more than a couple of hectic weekends recently that my spirit just simply refuses to budge ... not even my hands.  Thankfully my writing had not suffered and I managed to submit my 3rd draft very very early Saturday morning.  Now having my fingers crossed waiting for favorable feedback from the owner.

Weekdays passed quickly but weekend is even faster especially when we're hibernating.  Anyhow, I am not complaining because come tomorrow the physical renovation works starts on my new condo.  It's going to be an eager 7 weeks wait for them to finish the works.  There are still some purchases to be made for the home like new curtains, blinds and lightings to name a few.  The renovation cost, fittings and furnishings have quickly surpassed my budget of RM50k and it's scary to look at the growing figure as I add several more needed stuff.  The cost of everything has increased tremendously since the last renovation works I did for my previous home 13 years' ago.  What I spent then couldn't even cover half of my renovation works today!

My downsized home ...
but it's going to be better than ever!

Anyhow I am thankful that everything still works according to my plans.  A little sacrifice here and there but all that I need and I want are being satisfactorily fulfilled.  Now I just can't wait to shift in ... one thing's for sure, I will be celebrating X'mas in my new place.

Friday, October 19, 2012

Random Bubbles ...

Young Artist at Work by SemiCharmedLife (☯)

"You want to become aware of your thoughts, you want to choose your thoughts carefully and you want to have fun with this, because you are the masterpiece of your own life." 
- Joe Vitale

Thursday, October 18, 2012

Note Of Awareness #56

Rivalry is commonplace at home as it is anywhere else. It creates toxic relationship that harbors anger and resentment. You may be a victim of rivalry between siblings, friends or colleagues but it is not what they did that matters.


The law of attraction does not respond to what they have done to you but what you think about what they did matters. Holding on to your resentment merely locks you into a victim state and the resulting emotions are driving you away from feeling good about yourself. What you continue to think is not hurting the antagonist but yourself.

No matter what has happened, you must remain in control of your reality. You are empowered to practice the art of allowing by releasing resistant thoughts and letting the law of attraction to deliver the joyful life that is your birthright.

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

My Poem: Broken China [A Repost]

I wrote this poem reflecting the disappointment of a friendship turned sour due to conceit and betrayal. Toleration were taken for granted but as the trust has been broken, this friendship's changed forever. Adieu my once-upon-a-time friends!

Copyright © Wenny Yap 2011 All Rights Reserved. This poem may be reproduced with my written consent and the due credit provided.

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

My Bubble: Your Pace My Pace ... We Arrive Just The Same!

Everyone moves at a different pace and speed ... breathe, eat, talk, walk, run, react, work, progress and so on. Some may move too fast for others to catch up or some may just be rather slow to test our patience. However this is a matter of personal preference and at the end of the day ... no one's to judge you nor I.

"A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue
we can equally confide,
and whose opinion we can value at once for its
justness and its sincerity."
- Robert Hall

But friendships and even family ties can become a thing of the past when one or more persons choose to view our eager pace forward as a threat. The Chinese Hokkien refers to this as 'kia-su' which means 'scared to loose.'

Why? Why should ambitions and achievements be a threat among friends and kins?  If we open our hearts and eyes with sincerity, we will see everyone have their own successes.  Some may be far more better than what we could have done but there's no need to measure, we share the elation just the same. It is simply called respect as we are all in the same boat travelling the world together.  Everyone's equally entitled to the same privileges ... it's just a matter of who wants to reach them quicker.  Whoever is slower, the door to the privileges remains opened.  

With a dedication to camaraderie, good friends put up with each other's crap and turn blind eyes even when taken for granted once too frequently.  But when friends find the necessity to resort to slander and lies ... that draws the line.  Well it has been to our advantage though ... we are now the wiser who are our truest friends!

It may be easy to forgive and forget but the betrayal is just too great to continue the friendship.  The trust is broken and we no longer feel comfortable to share parts of our life with toxic friends.  Although we may not burn any bridges, we choose to move on for our own good.  

Monday, October 15, 2012

Affirmation of the Week ...

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Sunday, October 14, 2012

What Am I Grateful For This Week ...

It's Sunday and after yesterday's long wet day, the sun's out to play.  Frankly, I'd love to have yesterday's weather again and if possible ... everyday!

I was just looking at my blog and realized that my recent activities are getting more and more scattered and random when it had once been a disciplined daily affair.  Nope, I am not losing the interest nor losing my passion.  It is just that I have been caught up with other demanding activities that require my immediate attention.  For one is my ghostwriting project and secondly the renovation plans going into my new condominium.  It is also because I have decided to change my approach towards my blog ... to blog spontaneously rather than to plan.  I am very thankful that my blog is still growing and it has connected me to likeminded people around the globe.

I am equally thankful that the book that I am ghostwriting is progressing along smoothly.  I am already more than half way through with 2 months left to completion.  I hope to submit the next draft to the owner by end of next week and hopefully to receive my 2nd payment.

I am elated that the painting works on my new condo was completed today.  I am so thankful my chosen color for the walls had turned out perfectly and I can now look forward to the renovation works to begin next week.  The past few weekends had been a bit hectic shopping to equip my new condo.  Most of the necessities are now paid for and waiting for delivery after the renovation is completed.

I enjoyed myself on Rottnest Island, WA

I am grateful that all the plans in my life are moving ahead accordingly and I am eternally grateful for all the experiences that life has served on my platter.  I am enjoying my life and I need only to remind myself not to take everything for granted!

Thursday, October 11, 2012

Poetry: Anticipation

By Ariana Turano

Everything holding its own anticipation,
Turning negative into positive without reservation,
All of it is intense.

Viewing ahead the possibilities of what might be;
What do you want it to be?
Can it be?
Only experience will answer questions,
Entertain those thoughts with re-evaluation.

Life is too important to wonder and never know,
To have opportunity and nothing to show,
The doors of choice are open.

Have you opened any lately?
Have you taken what it is you want?
Every moment holds anticipation.

Your whole life is a translation of your dedication!
What is your anticipation?
Reality is MY anticipation.

Monday, October 8, 2012

Affirmation of the Week ...

Everything is progressing well in my life and I am grateful for all the blessings I am receiving. Every cell in my body is vibrating with energy and I can feel my vitality.

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Saturday, October 6, 2012

What Am I Grateful For This Week ...

I don't know whether to consider it an unproductive week or it's because Mother Earth has sped up on its axis.  It felt like Monday was only yesterday but when I awoke this morning ... it's Saturday!  Gosh, no doubt I have no complaints the way things are progressing but at times I can't help the feeling as if life is getting shorter!

Maybe this is just the symptoms of ageing.  A fact is a fact ... I'm no more 48 and I'm just one year shy from hitting the half-century mark.  Wow!!!  Reality sinking in ... but I'm still so looking forward to my Class of 1980's  Big-Five-O Celebration.  A bunch of us old schoolmates are already hatching ideas and itineraries for the reunion while some are helping to scour the planet looking for other long lost classmates.  It does not matter how many will turn up, whoever is present that day will have loads of rekindling old memories and catching up to.

Surely feeling the excitement now and how not to feel grateful for such a wonderful opportunity.  It is not always neither is it easy to gather friends who have been separated by the years, distance and commitments back in one common place.  I am thankful that some of us have been blessed with the convenience to meet up regularly.

Cheers to all my girlfriends of SMK Convent Muar ... may the force be with us to make the reunion the best birthday bash we'll ever have!

Friday, October 5, 2012

My Bubble: Changes Are For The Best!

It's almost coming up to 4 years since I first started my blog.  Maybe I'm a tiny weeny bit too early to mention about it but I am too eager to share my thoughts for the day.

4 years isn't very long but in the four years I've had heaps of progress and change.  All had been for the better of me and even if there are some unsolicited, they had been timely to my best interest.  I will always be steadfast in my belief that progress means change and changes are good!

 “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” 
– Jim Rohn

Most of my life had been a mixture of jubilation for accomplishments and disappointments for the misses.  But all that happened in my unconscious state of awareness.  Unknowingly, I had done everything right to achieve all that I wanted in my career and home but unknowingly too I have been guilty of creating the heartbreaks in my life.  It became clear to me what I had been doing to myself when I chanced upon the book 'The Secret.'

But there is no such thing as by chance where the law of attraction is concerned.  It had to be my own doing and by then it was too late to cry over spilled milk for all the nasty things that had happened.  It was an awakening and it prompted a major shift in my life ... I changed!

Blogging was the very first thing I undertook because I had wanted to share my learning experience about the law of attraction.  At the same time it appeared to be a good avenue to make some side income for myself.  After all I had always been playing with the idea to retire from the workforce by 45.  However, I was already 45 and I was far from retiring as the pay pack was just too good to let go.  Funny though, my career suddenly took a dive as I begin to experience changes in my perspective towards life.  The oomph to remain on the rungs of the corporate ladder seemed to be fading fast and I finally called it quits at 46 ... well, a year later was still pretty close to target.  Quitting spell some fear in my lo kong and myself as it meant changes to our expenses and existing commitments.  We accommodated the changes as we move along and we coped well.  

On hindsight, early retirement was the best decision I've ever made and it certainly brought about change after change ... all the changes made a happier me.  Unemployed now, I went into full-time blogging which enable various money-making opportunities.  With building confidence, I dabbled in writing and soon better paying opportunities did arrived at my door.  Today I am enjoying the experience of ghostwriting a book and another possibility on the way.  Being unemployed also mean I am free to travel and quite a bit I did this past year to places that I've always dreamed of going.

More changes ... friends come and friends go.  Good friends remained in touch eventhough distance and years may have kept us apart.  New good friends added to the list while the superficial ones had to be let go after their true colors emerged.

“Life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends we choose.” 
– Tennessee Williams

First there were two cars in our household.  Then there were 3 as my son Nick turned a licensed driver.  Then it became four temporarily before we had to let one that was quick becoming a junk.  By tomorrow we will be back to 2 again since I have just received the vacant possession of my new condominium which only allows 2 parking bays.  The delivery is 6 months earlier than as scheduled in the Sales & Purchase Agreement.  No one's complaining.  Two heads are definitely better than one as it must be because lo kong and I had poured in our eagerness together to quicken the completion. I am now eagerly looking forward to moving into my new humble abode.  Hopefully, I will be celebrating X'mas there.

I am thankful for the good and bad experiences as well as the good and bad individuals that have entered my life as they had prompted me to change and thankfully a change into someone I love!

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Law Of Attraction: Resist Insecurities For A Real Life

A little insecurity is considered normal. Everyone suffers some especially when caught in unfamiliar situations or places. In fact, to have none at all would have meant you are utterly fearless and this can spell danger due to the lack of preservation instinct.

On the other hand, to experience insecurities to the extent that they cripple you from coping with problems or situations can be as potentially dangerous too. Insecurity boils down to a low self-confidence. Insecure people normally find it difficult to feel gratitude or satisfaction for all the good that already exist in their life – food, shelter, water, electricity, career, friends, family etc. They constantly live under a cover of the dark shadow of struggle, doubt and fear. At their worst, they can even feel threatened by the delusion that the entire world is conspiring against them.

There are many possible reasons to feel insecure such as money problems, suffering relationships, fear of change and challenges, low self-esteem, lack of trust and social skills and not forgetting, depression. Under the premise of the law of attraction, the science of “like attracts like” means you attract what you think and feel strongly for. Naturally with insecurities, all thoughts and feelings are never on the right track. This only compounds the extent of what you fear and doubt. The more insecurity the more your world is filled with worries because you are so focused on the problem or situation.

Rather than feeling powerless, you should know that you can turn the law of attraction to your advantage. First and foremost, it is up to you to confront your fears and learn to address them one by one in order to turn your thoughts and feelings onto the right direction. You are never alone when dealing with your lack of confidence but only those who are serious about coming out from under the shadow of struggles, fears and doubt will seek help and where necessary some professional help to put things in perspective. Being around people who are positive in their attitude can definitely boost your confidence.

"If we are basically positive in attitude, expecting and envisioning pleasure, satisfaction and happiness, we will attract and create people, situations, and events which conform to our positive expectations." – Shakti Gawain, author of Creative Visualization

Unaware, insecurities had forced you to operate from a place that is imaginative only in your mind. Therefore, it is important to learn how to separate reality from fear. To achieve a progressive cognitive reconstruction, you need to change your awareness and develop a positive attitude towards life. Use your highly imaginative mind to create the kind of life you desire instead. The key for the law of attraction to work in your favor is your healthy positive mindset and that is undeniably within your own control. Start being grateful for everything you have in your life now as it is impossible to be negative when you are thankful.

It is never too late to change your attitude in life. With the science of the law of attraction, you can take control of your destiny. The power of choice is with you. Either you choose to continue feeling helpless or you proceed with a new journey towards a happier and fruitful life utilizes the same amount of effort but the results are worlds apart on opposite ends. So it’s up to you to decide.

Copyright © Wenny Yap 2012 All Rights Reserved. This article may be reproduced with my written consent, provided my name and link remain intact.

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Poetry: Begin Anew

Begin Anew
By D Anthony
* The Nurse in the Delivery Room Slapped Me... Once *

Have you ever wished you could begin anew
To experience the things you always wanted to
To make sure each day in someway you grew
To accomplish big things, and small ones too

To make a difference via things you would do
To positively impact lives of people you knew
To spend more time marveling the sky so blue
And less time worrying about your list 'To Do'

To ensure your faith becomes increasingly true
To verify each day a good memory you accrue
The great news is each day you can begin anew
But seize this day, another isn't promised to you

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Note Of Awareness #55

Insecurity appears in all sorts of matters ranging from money, appearance, relationships, career, challenges to change. The root cause is your low self-confidence.  Insecurity will trick you into living in an imaginative place inside your mind. It exaggerates problems and situations that compound your anxieties. Insecurity causes you to constantly focus on negative thoughts and feelings. Regretfully, the law of attraction does not care for all that and continues to deliver more of what your dread to you.

In order for the law of attraction to work in your favor, it is important to change your attitude. Either you choose to continue feeling helpless or you proceed with a new journey towards a happier and fruitful life utilizes the same amount of effort but the results are worlds apart on opposite ends. Remember, the power to choose is with you. Get your imaginative mind to work in your favor!

Monday, October 1, 2012

Affirmation of the Week ...

I must declare that I am very happy. Everything that's planned and even those unplanned are falling into places just as they should be. A little slower than I'd expect but I am still grateful they are all turning out at their best! Nonetheless, I will continue keeping my heart open for more of abundance to enter my life!

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Sunday, September 30, 2012

What Am I Grateful For This Week ...

Days seemed to turn dark faster as we move into the last quarter of the year here in Malaysia ... at least that's what I've noticed. There just seemed to be shorter days now, especially when there are a lot of excitement and merriment during this period of the year.

Three quarters of 2012 ends today and the last one is left to re-evaluate, revise and redirect our directions towards achieving a balance life that we are happy with. Whatever progress that is not forthcoming and whatever inconvenient and annoying elements in life that are harping us should be resolved as soon as possible before we can embark to make any new resolutions for the coming year.

First and foremost, it is important to get rid of the emotional junks that plagues us throughout the last three quarters. Being thankful is the best attitude towards life that is likely to help us feel that everything will work out for the best in the end. Gratitude is the best remedy to get rid of all our emotional junks and mindless clutters. We become more expansive and tolerant and will be under less stress than usual. We will be less inclined to sweat the small stuff and take up life with more vitality.

Let's start to appreciate the good things in our life now and rise above petty concerns in order to achieve a more balanced approach to life. I will start the ball rolling with my list of gratitude;

1.  I am grateful that all my efforts towards restructuring and organizing my life has begin to pay off.

2.  I am grateful for the freedom I am enjoying in life nowadays.

3.  I am grateful to discover my dream job of working from home.

4.  I am grateful for the long-distance business opportunities that has come my way.

5.  I am grateful for the opportunities to travel and expand my horizons.

6.  I am grateful that my son has graduated with a diploma and is now pursuing his degree.

7.  I am grateful to have taken vacant possession of my new home and all works are underway to spruce up the place for cozy living soon.

8.  I am grateful that lo kong is now relocated to work nearer to home which means lesser traffic jams, longer sleep and more family time.

Are you ready for an attitude of gratitude yet?  Start now and you will soon discover a more solid base to pull up your inner strength that defines your authentic ability, confidence and vigor to go after what you want in life.  Good luck!

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Poetry: When Life Feels Like A Mountain

At times life can seem too much to cope with. This poem reminds us that a fresh perspective can help. If you are seeking to motivate yourself in whatever circumstances you may be in right now, check out for more messages in the form of peoms to boost yourself with confidence.

Mount Titlis on the Urner Alps of Switzerland

When Life Feels Like A Mountain

When life feels like a mountain
Standing high in front of me
I pretend I am a bird
Flying fast and free

Winging up the mountainside
The peak now sharp defined
Draws me ever upwards
Fear and doubt are left behind

Soaring above the summit
The world lies at my feet
A carpet rich in possibility
Unfolds beneath

So when life feels like a mountain
Spread your wings and fly
Concentrate your mind
And aim for the sky

On the wings of confidence
You'll find everything you need
The birds-eye view clearly shows
The best way to succeed

Monday, September 24, 2012

Affirmation of the Week ...

I am enjoying my life each day. What tomorrow and the future brings is not in my hands but I have control over my thoughts and emotions to influence life's magic wand. I choose to keep a positive frame of mind because I want to live effectively and efficiently. I can and it's because I have control over my choices ... you can too!

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Sunday, September 23, 2012

What Am I Grateful For This Week ...

It is understandable to be worrisome sometimes about what life has in store for us.  No one knows what tomorrow holds or what awaits ahead for us in the future.  In truth, worrying does not change anything but perhaps creates an added burden.  Why allow ourselves to be so negatively affected by a tomorrow or a future that we have yet to know or escape from?  Worrying is based on our assumptions of the worst.

"We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy.  
The amount of work is the same."
~ Carlos Castaneda

With these said, the point is to focus ourselves on the positive aspect of life ... always look for the good in life.  So stop worrying about a past that cannot be changed ... learn from it!  Stop worrying about the future because it is not in our hands but know that we have the gift of choice to make it work better for us.  The law of attractions is in motion 24-hours irrespective you are in positive or negative state.  Doesn't it make more sense to feel optimistic and be thankful so that we can attract more of the abundance life has to offer.

As human beings, it is understandably impossible to be worry-proof.  Logically, we can't ignore some deserving worries in life but when we learn to live in gratitude, we are able to set aside all the unnecessary 'what if' and deal with issues as and when they arise.  It is living life effectively and efficiently.

So start adopting an attitude of gratitude and start living a life that you are able to enjoy.  Gratitude is a powerful tool to change our mindset and it is contagious.  Gratitude breeds optimism and you are going to be contagious!

Let me share my thankfulness.  I am thankful for the life I have been given and the eye-opening journey that has turned me into the person I am today ... wiser and definitely still learning.  I am grateful to have found my passion that makes my life purposeful each day.  I am thankful for the opportunities that life has sent my way ... to create friendships, to share my value, experience and knowledge, to see the world beyond mine and to make some pocket-money.  I am grateful I am enjoying life!

Random Bubbles ...

Argus Attitudes Are Contagious Poster

"The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind." 
- William James

Friday, September 21, 2012

Note of Awareness #54

Confidence … this is the power-gel that’s going to make the law of attraction work for you. It is a positive feeling and should always be enjoyed by everyone.

"What could we accomplish if we knew we could not fail?"
- Eleanor Roosevelt

Confidence in yourself is to feel good about yourself. It enhances your emotions and improves your mood. You feel happier, do things quicker and a result you achieve what you want easier. One of the steps of manifestation is to believe that you already have it. That’s confidence!

According to the law of attraction, when you feel good, you’ll draw more good feelings onto you. Others constantly see you as lucky in life but it’s because you have taken full advantage of the universal law.

Thursday, September 20, 2012

My Bubble: Free & Easy Around Perth

When lo kong and I planned to travel to Paris, we were forewarned of pick-pockets.  When we wanted to go Beijing, we were forewarned about tricksters and cheats.  When we wanted to see Tokyo, we were forewarned of their complicated transits in the city.  When we wanted to travel Down Under, we were forewarned to be careful of what we are bringing with us into the country ... no dairy products, no meat and no greens.

Travelling to a foreign land can sometimes be terrifying especially when you know nuts about the language.  To top it off, you are sometimes frightened by other people's bad experience or some based on hearsay.  Ridiculously, sometimes these comments may come from people who may not have even stepped out of their homeland before.  Let's not be cheated out of our own travelling experiences.  Take every opinion and caution with a pinch of salt and travel.  Let's go and create our own experiences with an open-mind.

Having survived a city that's notorious with pick-pockets, a city famous for tricksters and conmen and a city that's packed with mind-boggling super-fast transits, we know going to Perth in Australia  will definitely be a breeze!  Believe me, going about Perth is simple, straightforward and most importantly, feeling secure.

While the original purpose of the trip was meant to be marathon cum vacation, we decided to keep it free and easy around the city since lo kong has not fully recovered to run the full marathon in the Perth City to Surf Marathon.  It became a leisurely but fun trip with no rush and no fixed itineraries except for the 12km run and pre-booked accommodations in Perth CBD, Fremantle and Scarborough Beach.

The beautiful spring weather in Perth was an automatic stimulus to get active and go out into the sunshine to enjoy their beaches and natural parklands.  Except for the run, there's just no opportunity to break a sweat going about from one place to another.  Frankly, I didn't mind basking in the sun!

Within the 6 days, we managed to finished our run, meet-up with my facebook friend [Moy Tai and her family], check-out the flora and fauna in King's Park, went biking on Rottnest Island, soak in the beach life in Scarborough, took a wine-tasting river cruise, tried out luck at Burswood Casino, sightseeing on their free CAT buses around Perth and Fremantle as well as eat and drink to our hearts' content!

There was just one thing missing this time though ... No Shopping!!

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

My Bubble: Beers & Bikes!!

While our hotel room in Fremantle wasn't anything close to luxurious, the cold weather made sleeping in so inviting.  But it was not to be when lo kong woke me up early so that we can catch the morning ferry to Rottnest Island which is located 19km of the coast of Western Australian from Fremantle.

It will be an outdoor excursion and I intended to travel as light as possible ... no additional weight from the iPad, fixed lens or all the camera accessories.  In my haste to be light and free, I unwittingly left behind my shades and my digital camera.

There was a crowd when we arrived at the pier.  The fare for the return trip to Rottnest Island was AU$36 per person on a 'Love My Rotto' Telethon Tuesday deal.  No idea what was the normal fare though.  It was full onboard and the sea was so choppy making the ride stomach-churning ... I threw up half-way to the island.  Thankfully, the ride back was so much calmer.

By the time we arrived on the island was already mid-afternoon and it wasn't worthwhile to rent a bike for 24 hours.  Instead we waited till 12 noon to take up the rentals at AUD16.00 per bike that came with a helmet each.  It has been long while since I've cycled but surprisingly I've not lost the touch.  As we had to return the bikes by 4.00 pm, we didn't have enough time to cycle round the whole island.  Instead we took the 10km route and made it just in time back to the bike depot.

Apart from being awed by some unusual animals, the scenery around the island was spectacular.  The terrain was undulating with many steep hills followed by speeding drops which made cycling so exciting.  However, the winds were a force to be reckoned with ... even taking photos with our DSLR were made unstable.  We met most of the same people from our Rottnest shuttle biking around the same route with us, some struggling to balance themselves on their respective bicycles.  It was indeed a fun and relaxing day out on the island ... just wished we had more time.

Upon arriving back at the pier in Fremantle, we went to check out the Little Creatures Brewery.  The local brew came recommended by my FB friend's hubby, Andrew.  It was timely for us as there was a promotion for the beer.  6 bottles of any mix going for only AUD20.00.  It was half the price per bottle from the ones sold at the supermart!  We found the most expensive of the 8 different types of beer were sold at over AUD7.00 at the supermart. The beers lasted us for 2 days along with a couple of  bottles of Australian wine.  I regretted for not choosing their Pear Cider though as I couldn't find it anywhere else in the city ... I was told it is better than the Apple Cider.

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Poetry: Touched By An Angel

Touched by An Angel
by Maya Angelou

Image from Angels in America poster

We, unaccustomed to courage
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.

Love arrives
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls.

We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love's light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free.

Monday, September 17, 2012

Affirmation of the Week ...

Having been extremely under the weather the past 2 weeks, things are picking up again. I've regain my energy and focus again. While my body is steadily recovering, my spirit and mind is jumping with joy to being my bubbly self again. All are well again!!

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Saturday, September 15, 2012

What Am I Grateful For This Week ...

"Being thankful for life itself is a way of making life better. When we look away from our problems, even for a short time, and generate joy in our hearts, we find that the world seems to change a bit." ~ John Harricharan

I believe if you were to put this to the try, you will find John's words to be so true.  To formally think about a list of gratitude, our mind can sometimes ring hollow.  No doubt being thankful depends pretty much on our mood of the day or time, lest we should forget, life itself is the greatest gift from the heavens to top our list of gratitude.  Just this will suffice even if we are unable to figure out an entire list of gratitude. 

It takes wisdom and maturity to realize that we have enough in spite of whatever situation or predicament we are in.  We have been provided sufficiently but it is only our high expectations out of life and sometimes greed that creates the void of lack in us.  As the law of attraction goes, when we feel lacking then the more of the same experience shall continue.

Having gratitude allows us to live life with passion and purpose.  Call it living by design or living deliberately, we are giving purpose to our gift of life and in return we get to enjoy the abundance of happiness. Sound simple right?  It is, just as Confucius said "Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated!"

I have been in sick-mode for the past 2 weeks and gratitude can at times be the last thing on my mind ... I must admit.  However, whenever I'm able to muster the will, the first thing that I am thankful for is my dear life and all my family members and friends who have taken their respective places within.  I am also thankful for all my life experiences, good or bad, because they have made me stronger and wiser.  What more can I ask for but to continually live in constant gratitude pursuing the things I am passionate about and hopefully encouraging others along the way.  

Friday, September 14, 2012

My Bubble: A Walk In King's Park

It threatened to be a rainy day that morning but we still had to proceed with our plan to visit the iconic landmark in Perth ... King's Park.

As we were due to check-in at our hotel in Fremantle, we realized we won't be able to spend a full day roaming the park.  While we had intended to rent a bicycle to go around the over 4 sq km park and botanical garden, thankfully we had heeded the advice from my FB friend, Moy Tai to walk instead.  Actually, we hardly saw anyone riding bikes at the park.  Most people were strolling and some simply sat and relaxed on the vast landscaped grounds.

We took the free city bus shuttle service which is a free hop-on-hop-off public transport within the city centre limits.  We were supposed to get off at Mounts Bay Road but we missed it the first time and ended back at their busport (bus depot).  Instead of getting off, we continued on its full route to take in some sights of Perth and got off at the second last stop of their route which is right on the edge of King's Park.  Prompted by the Blue CAT bus driver, we found our way up Jacob's Ladder ... all 242 steps upwards to the entrance of King's Park.  There were a lot of people running up and down the stairs, burning calories and building endurance.

It was an awesome sight when we reach Fraser Avenue, a street neatly lined by gum trees with individually dedicated plaques to fallen Western Australian service men and women.  Green and clean lawns flanked both sides of the street.  It was a beautiful park and since it is almost the beginning of spring, there were many types of wild flowers blooming while others were just beginning to sprout their shoot or buds and pods.  The park located at the edge of Perth CBD allow an amazing almost 360-deg panoramic view of the city and Swan River.  The place is a perfect getaway from the hustle and bustle of the city to relax or to jog.  Eventhough it rained, it wasn't that cold and by noon, it was pretty sunny. I simply loved the cool breeze because I could walk for hours without breaking a sweat ... just have to worry about sunburn though which I got during the Perth City to Surf run the day before.

We did not cover the entire park but just a few of the popular touristy spots like the State War Memorial, Honour Avenue, Bali Memorial, DNA Tower and part of the botanical garden such as the Gija Jumulu Boab Tree, Pioneer Women's Memorial Fountain and the Lotterywest Federation Walkway that eventually led us to the Glass Bridge.  I believe it would take at least 2 days to leisurely cover the entire park but too bad we did not have the time to spare since we were already booked to stay in Fremantle for the next 2 nights.

Saturday, September 8, 2012

What Am I Grateful For This Week ...

The moment I boarded the plane heading back to Kuala Lumpur, I can hear a lady letting out coughs every few minutes. By the time I'm seated, I realized the coughing lady was sitting just the front row of me.

For the entire duration of the flight that took 5 hours and 25 minutes, she could not stop talking. Doesn't she realize that talking makes her cough more?! Moreover, she was kinda being inconsiderate towards the other passengers who were trying to catch a shut eye. There were also several toddlers and babies on the flight and she should have been conscientious enough to request for a surgical mask from the crew to prevent spreading her virus to the kids.

I don't know about the other passengers but I have been suffering from coughs, runny nose, sore-throat and headaches since the day after touch-down. I know for sure I caught the virus onboard. Rather than her, I should have ask the crew for a surgical mask myself! Regrets! Regrets!!

Too close for comfort ...

The same thing happened when I was flying into Hongkong earlier in February and also when I was flying back from Tokyo in early March. It's funny that my immune system is so susceptible to the flu virus despite all the supplements that I am swallowing every day. Even during those days when I was still in the workforce, anytime anyone suffers from the flu I will always stand to be the next in line.

I've already finished the doctor's medication and I'm still no better. It's been more than a week now and I am still out-of-order!

I have been too sickly to pen regular entries this past and I've certainly missed a couple of weeks in my gratitude journal.  Anyhow, I am grateful that I had a successful run at the Perth City to Surf event with a relaxing free and easy trip to boot as well as a wonderful get-together with an Australian Facebook friend in Perth.


Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Poetry: Change Your World

Change Your World
by: Brian Tracy

You cannot change the world,
But you can present the world with one improved person -
You can go to work on yourself to make yourself
Into the kind of person you admire and respect.
You can become a role model and set a standard for others.
You can control and discipline yourself to resist acting
Or speaking in a negative way
Toward anyone for any reason.
You can insist upon always doing things the loving way,
Rather than the hurtful way.
By doing these things each day,
You can continue on your journey
Toward becoming an exceptional human being.

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

My Bubble: No More Pen Pals ... It's FB Pals!

Long ago, the popularity of long distance friendships were through this thing called pen pals. Getting abreast with each other took a little longer route via the post. A pen pal may stay in touch for a short while while some may last a lifetime. Some pen pals eventually do meet face-to-face with some leading to more serious relationships including marriages.

Today, strangers worlds apart meet on Facebook every second of the day. This is the modern variation of pen pals and the communication is real-time. This is the wonder and awesomeness of our internet era!

I was always attracted to this bright spark that appeared on a friend's Facebook. I like her outspoken jovial spontaneity whenever she commented and we somehow managed to click! No sooner, we are Facebook friends and I met her and her beautiful family for the first time when I visited Perth recently.

As I was only in town for a week, we had agreed to meet on the Sunday evening after my Perth City to Surf run. Sharp 4pm, Moy Tai came to pick lo kong and I at our hotel in her sports car ... now I claim I've ridden in a Porsche! By the way, it's tough getting in and out for old people like the two of us. Revving the engine a bit, she took us on a short sightseeing tour around the neighborhood on the way to her house. Her home has a spacious garden teeming with live thanks to her green thumb. The flowers blooming gloriously, the lemon tree full of gargantuan lemons, the olive tree and the grapevines beginning to flower and I finally learned the difference between kumquat and loquat! Wasn't mistaken though ... both tastes sour! We savored her very unique Savory Smoked Salmon swissrolls right there in her garden, sipping hot green tea while the cold breeze creates shivers on lo kong ... but I love it! I love the weather in Perth!

Not wanting to be too 'keipo', there were awkward moments when our conversation hit a silent note. Moy Tai had been such a lovely host, preparing a sumptuous dinner for us with her family. We had two types of beef steak, lamb chops and the much anticipated kangaroo steak ... too engrossed I had forgotten to take a shot of it! I completely loved the starter of juicy pan-fried scallops with healthy greens. The dinner finished with a freshly baked Mud Cake ... whatever diabetes problem just had to stand aside for a moment! We even had 2 slices of Mud Cake packed on the go which lo kong gobbled down on Rottnest Island!

While it had been a wonderful opportunity to meet up with Moy Tai and her family, I felt kinda imposing putting her through so much trouble. More so when I realised that our visit had actually coincided with her younger daughter's calisthenics concert. She brought home 2 trophies that evening and this little girl of 8 had only been into it for just 6 months. Well done!!

To Moy Tai, thank you so much to you and your family for the warm hospitality and a gastronomic evening!

Monday, September 3, 2012

My Bubble: Perth City To Surf 2012

Call me a meanie or a bully coz I ran the 12km in the Perth City To Surf so that lo kong cannot participate in the full marathon. The truth of the matter is lo kong's still recovering from his injuries ...  if he continues to itch running the full how will he ever recover totally?

I do not have much passion for running frankly although I do run regularly in order to keep my diabetes under check. The closest I've ever participated in any running events had only been twice in the relays.  This time our deal was for lo kong to pace me for the 12km ... this means he'll still get to run some.   Not too deprived I think and he'll also take over as the cameraman.

It was a fine sunny day on the race day for my first 12km race. The continuous cold breeze was perfect to prevent me from sweating profusely like when back in our hot country! The route was very hilly ... I counted 4 steep slopes. There were ample water stations at every 2km which lo kong insisted I stop. It was a very well-organised event with over 45,000 participants. Thankfully, I finished the race in one piece at 1hr 26:57mins but with a slight sunburn on my shoulders ... should have worn a sleeved T! I do believe I could have achieved my targeted timing minus the hills and photo-shoots.

Anyway, after finishing our race we waited for Uncle Chew who completed his full marathon at 6hrs 07:45mins. As the all the categories started in the city but ends elsewhere outside the city, the organizers had prepared free bus transits for all participants back to the city center.

Affirmation of the Week ...

I'm back!  Life's just beautiful as it unfolds new experiences to make new memories to be treasured.  I had a wonderful break Down Under and it's back to the routine nitty-gritty.  Everything in my life is moving in the right direction in their appropriate speed and timing.  I feel so blessed and I am thankful for this brand new week!

This is my affirmation of the week ...