Arguments between husband and wife is not uncommon. We have had countless since we affirmed our vows more than 20 years ago. It has been proven times over that no real marriage exists without healthy arguments and disagreements. They are a normal part of a healthy marriage. Both spouses feel free to express their thoughts, emotions and needs which sometimes inadvertently led to expressions of anger. Anger is still a healthy part of a relationship if it is properly expressed.
A marriage without the healthy arguments and disagreements is probably going to be monotonous, dull and boring. However, at the end of the day, a marriage is learning to let the little things pass. After our temperatures have cooled, I am thankful that both of us are able to see pass the angry words that flew all over the place at every disagreements.
"Wasn't marriage, like life, unstimulating and unprofitable and somewhat empty when too well ordered and protected and guarded? Wasn't it finer, more splendid, more nourishing, when it was, like life itself, a mixture of the sordid and magnificent; of mud and stars; of earth and flowers; of love and hate and laughter and tears and ugliness and beauty and hurt?"
~ Edna Ferber, Show Boat [1926]
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