Living Deliberately: Are You The Most Important Person In Your Life?

Definitely you love a number of people in your life. You love your parents, your kids, your siblings, your spouse or your boyfriend and even your BFF no doubt. This is where most people unwittingly develops a tendency to put others first rather than themselves. It’s not to say that it is right or wrong. Since your formative years, you have been taught to be selfless towards the people you love and your selflessness can be good as it can induce inner benefits. At least you know you are making a difference in someone else’s life.

But what happens when you have gone into the deep end and totally forgotten about yourself?

You have been selfless to others but you have been selfish with yourself. In such abandonment, you are neglecting your own needs, priorities and desires. You may find comfort in helping or putting others first but as long as you can still feel an emptiness or longing inside you ... there’s no denying that you have not been fulfilling your own wants. Are you not important to you?

You do! You matter because there’s only one unique you. You must realize that you are valuable to everyone around you, especially the people who loves you. Therefore you must remember to take care of yourself in order to be able to continue with your selflessness. There’s no written rule that says you can’t be a little selfish while being selfless at the same time.

Unfortunately people tend to associate selfishness in a very negative way. There is some truth in there but if you have already been conscientious in your ways, it is unlikely you will start to develop into an arrogant, egotistical braggart who runs down everyone in your path. It is just not you!

Be selfish positively and that means you are not going to accept anything less than what you would want for you. You will want the best relationships, the best career, the best home, the best travels and enjoy the healthiest food. You are not going to scrimp on yourself but willingly work hard and make necessary sacrifices for your self-improvement. With all these efforts, you are going to feel good about yourself inside. You can encourage yourself to take on challenges, make friends and become more outgoing. You exude confidence without any need to brag or boast.

You smile a lot and your positive attitude will draw people towards you. Now you can go on to be better at making a difference in other people’s life. Are you not important to you?