Wednesday, February 10, 2010

My Bubble: What Lurks Inside That Teenage Mind?

Many a times whenever he stares into the thin air, I would asked Nick, "What are you thinking of?" or "What's on your mind now?" and without fail, he will refute with the usual, "NOTHING!"

One day, I posed the same question on a friend's daughter, Shaunie who's the same age as Nick. That particular evening, I caught her staring blankly into the air just as Nick did so frequently. She's always been a straight A-student and she surprised me with the same answer, "NOTHING". I guess I must've been kinda bias towards Nick as I was expecting some tangible answer from her.

Shame on me huh? Why would the answer be any different between a A-student and an average one? After all, they are teenagers all the same.

Diverted abit. Now, my point is what lurks inside their mind during those instances? Are they in a self-induced trance OR some witch-doctor has cast an evil spell on them OR have they turned into robots under the control of some mad-scientist?

Hey! These are the babies we carried in our womb for 9 months ... fed them, washed them, picked them up when they fall, soothed them when they had a bad dream ... we had watch them grow to 18 and yet we got locked out!

How apt it goes with the chorus line of Zombie by The Cranberries;

"In your head, in your head,
Zombie, zombie, zombie,
Hey, hey, hey. What's in your head,
In your head,
Zombie, zombie, zombie?
Hey, hey, hey, hey, oh, dou, dou, dou, dou, dou..."

I've been a teenager before and so does Cheryl (Shaunie's mum) but yet, we're still perplexed by it! During our time, there were higher expectations on us and we were given more responsibilities. Yet, I don't remember ever being so lost in transition. The general consensus ... teenagers today are just so different from our time.

Guess I'll just have to wait till Nick's ready to talk. Maybe Shaunie will outdo him and I'll find out from Cheryl! I'm not going to let my 'curiosity kill the cat!'

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, 
but anyone can start today

11 Bubbles:

As they grow older, you feel further right.... dekat tapi jauh.

Hahaha!!! You really have a great description over this matter but it is true ... I agree totally with you.

Very wise ... are you talking from experience? :)

well, it's kinda true. most of the time teenagers don't think about anything. they just simply...

zone out.

that's what teenagers are meant to do (or so i think or that's how i used to be!) ;p

i mean, they can save all the thinking for financial, career etc for later. ahahahha.

Hi Doc Stiletto, in other words ... teenagers today are a lucky lot, aren't they?

Haha, I think you're right! I always had things on my mind and things I had to do--I bet you did too. Today's teens are lucky!

I am as curious as you as to why Shaunie go 'blank' at times. Are they dreaming of something that they rather keep it to themselves? I don't know.

Lately, I experienced this 'Zone Out' thingy myself too. Really, I just go 'BLANK' - really empty up there. Usually it happened after a very busy day, over-worked, extreme exhaustion. It's like in a daze - for a few moments. I can just sit there staring without thinking. Perhaps, our reason is we are tooooooooo tired/worned out.

The teenagers - I don't know....

@RicAdeMus: When I was a teenager, I never did such 'zone out'. I remember most of the time if I'm not studying, I was fantasising about the future ... career, luxuries and boyfriend!

Wah Cheryl, sure you are not trying to experiment to find out the truth behind those 'blanks'?

I can never do those 'zone out' thingy and I don't think I will ever want to ... it doesn't work with LOA. :)

Hi Wenny :)

I Love your Blog - looks great, and some very interesting stuff here!

As for teenagers zoning out... A couple of points:

* Teens are going through one of the most challenging phazes of human life. All sorts of new stuff is happening - emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically... not to mention Socially! Their brains will shut off every now and then to process stuff - whether they're aware of it or not - especially if they're not getting the amount of sleep they need.

* At times they may be aware of this, and "daydreaming" about something/ someone and just not feel like sharing it (which is of course fair enough - all of us are entitled to our own private thoughts and daydreams :) )

* Other times, they may genuinely be unaware they were "zoned out" - the brain may litterally have "checked out" for a moment to process stuff subconsciously, and to refresh.

When my son goes into that state - which doesn't happen often right now, but then he is only 13 so there's still plenty to come lol - unless he needs to be focusing on something, I allow him that moment. It's a moment of peace - and in fact ALL of us should allow ourselves to just stop and stare every now and then - it's kinda like a mini-meditation. :)

Love and Light and Magic xxx

Hi Illusions, I appreciate the explanation and I agree very much with you.

It's just my maternal instinct going on over-drive ... I worry just in case if it is something complicated or something that he may not know how to tackle.

Else, I give my son alot of 'his space' ... in fact sometimes, I have to ask him to give me 'my space' ... LOL!

I liked the insight given by illusion.. let us have some 'mini meditation'...

and have fun....