Firstly, let's not forget the power of your subconscious mind. You create your own circumstances through your subconscious mind. Most persons have been conditioned to think and react negatively whenever uncertainties loom ahead due to an instilled fear, fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of regret, fear of change and so on. Subconsciously, you are frightening yourselves into self-sabotage!
Before anyone can overcome self-sabotage, there's a need to explore your thoughts, emotions and actions. You need to understand where these fears are coming from and how they are influencing your actions or inactions. Once you have determined the causes, you can then take steps to prevent it from happening in the future.
As an example, you want financial prosperity. You are inspired and know exactly what to do to energize yourselves and the infinite intelligence sends you leads in the form of opportunities and ideas. But subconsciously, you may be frightened by the thoughts of failure or change. You understand the risks you have to take, yet you become weakened in your actions. You react too slowly that the opportunities slipped away.
On the other hand, you may be frightened by the thoughts of regrets or missed opportunities, so you just jump right in without any evaluation. You react too quickly that you failed to realize whether you have the know-how or if you are prepared for the long haul.
As another example, you may dream of a successful relationship. You energized yourself well that you found yourself in a relationship that you always dream of. But no matter what you do, it still did not last. Perhaps subconsciously you fear making the wrong choice. Even if the relationship hits the mark, you belief the next relationship could possibly be better.
I asked myself this same question very often, “Am I sabotaging myself?” Regretfully I am only human and sometimes the answer turned out to be a resounding Yes!
While I've worked hard to remove the negative spell of the past, sometimes certain situations or persons still trigger the unwanted memories and emotional reactions. It can feel as if I am on “auto-pilot” with little control over my reactions of anger, sadness, fear, guilt or even, jealousy. I have allowed myself to sabotage my own desires, denying myself from what I am capable of achieving in the shortest of time whenever I lose control.
If I do not fight the self-saboteur in me at the soonest and continue to allow myself to succumb to the failure, I am pretty sure I will be returning to the state where I first began. I must reclaim my control over my subconscious mind. I need to strengthen my psychological immune system by making peace with my past. That is why it is important to take regular time-outs to reflect, forgive and forget. You could actually liken this to a form of self-detoxification.
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2 Bubbles:
The way I sometimes try to sabotage myself is by waiting longer to start something than it would just take me to do it. Fortunately I work faster than my co-workers, so I still get it done on time. These are usually things I don't think we should do and I find ways to avoid them until I have no choice but to do it. The things I'm excited about doing, get done so quickly it sometimes seems like magic to my boss ("How did you get this done so quickly?"). It helps that I'm surrounded by barely competent staff--makes me look good. =)
Procrastination is a form of self-sabotage actually. Well, it is good you are aware of it Rick and quick to get around it!
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