Tuesday, December 31, 2013

My Bubble: Happy New Year 2014

It's been 5 years of blogging ... another new year to beckons.  Let's welcome the new year with a smile and the spirit of adventure to embrace life's sweet surprises!

Here's wishing all my family and friends in the blogsphere a jubilant year of:

Health & Happiness
Wealth & Wisdom
Peace & Prosperity
Glee & Glow
Love & Laughter

Sunday, December 29, 2013

My Poem: I Am No More The Same ...

As I welcome the new year of 2014 ... a little reminder that the remainder of my life lies within the grasps of my hands. Live without regrets but to forge ahead seizing tribulations and opportunities to live life more deliberately. Happy New Year!


Copyright © Wenny Yap 2013 All Rights Reserved. This poem may be reproduced with my written consent and the due credit provided.

Wednesday, December 25, 2013

My Bubble: Time Flies ...

It's Christmas today and in just a week's time the year wraps up with the new year beckoning.  Time really flies.

It felt like only yesterday when I carried my year-old nephew in my arms but last weekend the entire family celebrated his proud moment ... his wedding.  I just had to shake my head as to how 30 years could just passed by so quickly?

While my nephew begins his day as a family man, a couple of friends celebrated their silver wedding anniversary yesterday.  With a quick count on my fingers, looks like lo kong and I are just 2 years shy of the silver anniversary.  Where did all the years go?  Actually, it is not so much where the years had gone but more so what had I accomplished along these years.

2013 soon bids farewell to us and everyone will excitedly welcome 2014 with new resolutions and goals.  Before I can move forward with new resolutions and goals, I will need to evaluate the milestones that I've managed to reach.  Even if I've not ... why didn't I?

This year had been a year of many distractions and many detractions but none can be deemed to be a setback in my quest for a lifelong change towards living life more deliberately.  The distractions shifted my attention in order that detractions could bring new opportunities to help me in my personal development as well as monetarily.

"I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be." 
~ Douglas Adams, The Long Dark Tea-Time of the Soul

In a quick sum, my gratitude list certainly looks more than I had hope for;

1.  I did my first 21 kilometre trail run in my hometown.
2.  I took up cycling and am a proud owner of a Boardman SLR9.0 carbon road bike.
3.  I did my first in the sprint category of the Powerman Malaysia duathlon.
4.  I attempted a 50 kilometre ultra-trail marathon in Kota Kinabalu.
5.  I attempted to scuba-dive and I've decided it is against my best interest.
6.  I just signed up for a new money-making project.

Life's been good ... so there's really nothing to complain about.  I'm hoping to accomplish all that I've failed to achieve this year to the following year.

"Nothing is impossible to a willing heart."  
~ John Heywood

Monday, December 16, 2013

Law of Attraction: When Opportunity Knocks

Do you believe in luck? Most people all over the world have been conditioned through their respective upbringing to believe anything that happened in their lives beyond their planning or control is just plain luck. Are you really going to let the word ‘luck’ have so much power over your destiny?

As a law of attraction practitioner, whether it is called luck or fate or coincidence, we know it is actually the result of our subconscious wants, our focused attention and our willingness to take action when opportunity knocks. “Destiny is not a matter of chance; it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.” ~ William Jennings Bryan

According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, destiny is described as the things that someone or something will experience in the future. These things do not always happen the way we expect it to but they do happen based on our belief, our actions and the choices we make. A law of attraction practitioner knows we can control our destiny. Our future is not set in stone as it is still changeable by the many opportunities that come knocking at our door when the time is ripe and when we least expect. These opportunities give us an advantage to review and revise our ambitions, goals or desires to be followed inspired efforts to develop and accomplish them.

Opportunities are present around us all the time. Recognizing these opportunities is dependent on our intentions and mindset which is influenced by our belief system. It is a powerful attraction tool that creates our thinking and our attitude. Do you believe you are all worthy and deserving of the abundance that are waiting for you out there? While your conscious and logical mind may be inspired to receive the abundance, your true belief system is your inner self that chooses to see or not see the opportunities that are showing up on your doorsteps. The contradicting thoughts within us create a limiting belief that will blind us into making the necessary decisions and changes crucial to accomplishing our goals or intentions. A limiting belief makes us see opportunities as difficulties and unfortunately hinders our success.

There’s an aged old proverb that says “opportunity only knocks once.” However with a positive mindset, “life always offers you a second chance and it’s called tomorrow.” While waiting for tomorrow to come, learn to listen to our inner self, that subtle whisper that comes from the back of our head and take the initiatives to understand;

1. Our purpose in life
2. Our personal values
3. Our passions
4. Our strengths
5. Our weaknesses

Understanding these five values is an important step towards overcoming our limiting belief. It keeps us on track on our life’s journey with a destination in sight. Opportunities are the means that will help us get there but it would be meaningless to open our door when opportunity knocks unless we are sure where we are heading.

Copyright © Wenny Yap 2013 All Rights Reserved. This article may be reproduced with my written consent, provided my name and link remain intact.

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

My Bubble: Another Challenge Completed!

Albeit some disappointment in my performance, I am still proud of myself for completing the 2013 Malakoff Powerman Asian Championships in the Sprint Category last Sunday.  This is yet another birthday wish ticked on my half-centurion birthday wishlist.

This championship is a run-bike-run race and the sprint category covered a 5.5km run followed by a 32km bicycle ride that ended with another 5.5km run.  Despite being a little nervous at the start, I managed to complete the first 5.5km run in about 45 minutes before going on to complete my bike ride within 1hr 25mins.  It is unfortunate that I had cramps building up in my calves during the last 10km of the bike ride.  I decided to walk at the start of the second leg of my run, hoping to walk off the cramps before slowly building up to a slow run.  Too bad I had to walk about 80% of the way as the cramps returned whenever I tried to run.  I reached the finish line slightly more than an hour.  While the official results is not out yet ... I believe I completed the race in about 3hrs 10mins based on my own timing.  This is almost half-an-hour outside my targeted time.

I had made a bad decision to forego wearing my compression calf guards for this race and suffered a disappointing consequence.  Well next time ... if there ever is a next time ... I will be the wiser!

Thursday, October 10, 2013

Law of Attraction: Going Back To Basics!

The last article I published about the law of attraction was in June 2013. More than three months’ ago but I can’t help thinking that I’ve put my writing on the back burner for a tad too long. The more I thought about it, the more I felt the pressure to write, then the more I suffered a writer’s block and the more I procrastinated.

I realized I had been obviously pushing myself too hard. I know I have been very focused on making myself fit enough to meet the challenges of an ultra-trail marathon but unconsciously I have also turned myself back into the uptight person I once was. It has been two weeks since the ultra-trail marathon ended and it’s been more than a week since I’ve been down with a viral infection. While being down with fever and coughing my tears out this past week, I’ve had the chance to slowly resettle my train of thoughts. Yeah, being sick is probably a blessing in disguise.

I discovered I have been putting myself on a full-scale defensive by creating pressure and losing my initial objective of joining the ultra-trail marathon. I have totally lost sight that I had only wanted to enjoy the experience. Irrespective whether I complete the challenge or otherwise, it is the experience that counts. Regretfully I have gotten off the track losing focus on the original goals that I have set up for myself.

Discovering the law of attraction had taught me to stay focused on my goals and take inspired actions to their effect. Thankfully, my efforts had been pretty fruitful so far as I observe their positive influence on my life these past 5 years. Of course more will be coming my way but not before I put myself back on the right track again.

It is never too late to start all over once you have realized that you have gone off track. When you acknowledge the fact that you are facing a struggle to remember your original goals or desires, it is about time to decide going back to basics. Actually, what does going back to basics mean?

It does not necessary mean starting all over again. You don’t have to. After all, you have already been pretty successful practising the law of attraction before this little setback. You just need to renew your resolutions and determination by following these steps;

1.Return to the beginning and reacquaint yourself with your original goals and desires. It helps to remind yourself why you started your journey of change in the first place.

2.Reinforce the reasons why the changes you seek had been so important to you. This will help to revitalise your enthusiasms.

3.Make a list of proofs of the positive changes that happened in your life so far. It helps to boost your confidence in your actions and promote more inspired actions.

4.Observe the improvement in your inner strengths and identify where there may be room for further improvements.

5.Re-strategize your efforts with the incorporation of new goals, purposes and desires. This will definitely prevent you from running around like a headless chicken.

With the newfound clarity, you will become focused again. You will regain the trust in your intuitive self to lead you with renewed instincts. As you begin getting back on track, you will embark on doing mostly the highest payoff activities that will impact both your old and new goals.

Alas, I did not managed to complete the 50km challenge in the ultra-trail marathon but the experience was indeed a thrilling adventure that I will treasure forever. My everyday life will not be back to as it was 3 months’ ago. Having just past my half-centurion milestone, I’ve decided to dare myself to experience activities that I’ve never ever thought I’d do. At least once!

Life is meant to be enjoyed and there’s no fun unless you can deliberately seek new experiences and overcome the limitations that you have been conditioned with all your lives. Life experiences need not be a challenge as long as your carry the clarity and focus on why you want the change you seek. It does not matter whether you win, lose or finished half-way you are already a winner for giving the experience a try.

Coming up next in my deliberate experiments to expand my limits is a sprint duathlon in 2 weeks’ time!

Copyright © Wenny Yap 2013 All Rights Reserved. This article may be reproduced with my written consent, provided my name and link remain intact.

Saturday, September 28, 2013

Poetry: Look Well To This Day

Look Well to This Day 
Anonymous, 50 B.C. 

Look well to this day, 
For it and it alone is life. 
In its brief course 
Lie all the essence of your existence: 

The Glory of Growth 
The Satisfaction of Achievement 
The Splendor of Beauty 

For yesterday is but a dream, 
And tomorrow is but a vision. 
But today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness, 
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.

Thursday, September 26, 2013

My Bubble: Living Up To The Challenge

Hey, I'm a newly minted half-centurion today!

I have not been posting much of late ... just bits and pieces here and there when the brain and inspiration functions in unity. This post had been long overdue ... the first draft which had been started weeks before I went on the challenging ultra trail marathon in the mountain and then trying to overcome my fear factor of the deep on an island resort.  While one of this may be on my birthday wishlist ... I'm glad I did not add scuba-diving to the list because it is going to take many rounds of practice to break me from the grip of this fear.  Yes, I failed miserably even at an attempt on scuba discovery.

However,  I had prepared myself mentally to face the physical challenges that comes with the 50km ultra trail marathon.  Everything started a OK in the morning as lo kong and I gathered with most other participants at the designated pickup point.  With our drop bags duly parked with the officials, we boarded Bus #4 and headed out on a 2-hour ride to the starting point along with 12 other buses.  A storm on the previous night had rerouted our bus ride and we arrived exactly at the starting time ... 7am.  As there was already a long queue to cross a hanging bridge before the registration hall, the race was definitely not going start anytime soon.  With every participant registered, the race finally started an hour late. This is the beginning of everything going against us.

Firstly, starting an hour late meant our targeted 12-hour finish would require us to come back in the dark as the day turns dark earlier in Sabah.  In the dark, we would definitely become slower too and we prayed we could make it back within the 15 hours qualifying time.  A short distance after flag-off, everyone is stucked again in a bottleneck to cross another hanging bridge ... 5 persons per trip and we were stuck there for 1.5 hours.  We reached the first water station and were told there will be a time compensation of more than an hour.  The trail wasn't easy as it was muddy and slippery due to the rain on previous days.  This slowed us down a lot as we did not want to risk any injuries.

About 6 hours into the race, it started to rain.  Paths became streams, streams became rapids and rivers were raging.  We were practically making our way in running streams of water until we reach the first checkpoint.  Armed with the thought that we had a time compensation of 1.5 hours, we thought we had arrived within the cut-off time ... only to be told that the organizer had only given a time compensation of half an hour.

What?!!  Delayed by 1.5 hours and we're expected to recover the distance in half an hour and in the rain.  Anyway based on our calculations, we were late by only 8 minutes but the marshall was adamant to have our bibs and so that was it ... we were disqualified from continuing with the race with or without our decision to DNF (Do Not Finish) by then.

Wait wait!  That's not the end ... we still had to trek another hour to the next water station to get our transport to the finish point to get our change of dry clothes and the bus ride back to the city.

The rain wasn't letting up and thus began the looming dangers.  While heading towards the next water station, we were challenged by a stream that had turned into a rapids.  The sound of the rocks knocking against each other as they were being wash away was scary.  Together with 2 other couples, we attempted to cross and that's when lo kong was almost washed away, trying to prevent a lady who had slipped from being swept away.  I heard lo kong's walking stick snapped and amidst the sudden chaos, the lady's hubby managed to grab on to her while lo kong went out of course.  Thankfully lo kong managed to grab on a fallen tree branch and reached safely on the other side.  By then, another group arrived and the men were able to form a stronger human chain across to lo kong's side so that everyone can cross one at a time.  These teamwork brought all 12 of us past the next 2 rapids and on our way to the next water station.

Upon reaching the next water stations, there were many participants who had either decided to DNF or were still contemplating their next move.  The pouring rain has hampered many from completing their race.  As there was a search and rescue effort initiated to help participants stranded by the raging rivers and streams, the wait for our transport back to the finish point took hours.  Soaked to the skin, I was grateful that we had a thermal blanket as one of our mandatory items.  It did not keep me warm but at least it protected me from the cold winds.   While we faced the rain in the jungle, strong winds and rain ravaged the finish point blowing off some of the tents housing our drop bags ... ours were totally soaked.  Without any dry change, we had to take the 2-hour bus ride into the city all still wet but wrapped in a thermal blanket.

By the time we reached our hotel room, we had been soaked to the skin for at least 8 hours!  In a way, I'd consider it a blessing to be disqualified because if we had continued on, we would have reach after the last bus into the city have departed.  We will then have to overnight at the finish point without any dry change of clothes ... I dread to think of hyperthemia in that scenario.

I'm a half-centurion today!  Another birthday wishlist completed but the mission was not fully accomplished.  The registration for TMBT 2014 opens next month, October ... I'm so contemplating another try.  Should I or shouldn't I?

Thursday, August 22, 2013

Poetry: The Dash Poem

"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man"
 ~ George Bernard Shaw

In our daily pursuits to achieve our material wants, we sometimes forget to look at all the abundance that are already present in front of us.  We forget that we are already blessed ... the fact that we are able to live another day.  While the world may have its expectations, let's not forget our own expectations of the world that only we ourselves can make it happen.

Thursday, July 18, 2013

My Bubble: The Most Beautiful Thing ... Can I Do It?

From more than 6 months of available time to train for this event, it has now drawn so much closer with less than 2 months left to train.  The trepidation is fast creeping in and I am now left with this uncertainty whether I can complete this challenge come September.

The Most Beautiful Thing 50km Ultratrail
I have never done a full marathon while the longest race I've ever done was a mere 12km.   So far my training has only encompassed the distance of 21km with a snail pace of 5 hours to complete.  Will I be able to complete ahead of the qualifying time of 15 hours for 50km?  Seemed doable yet the anxiety is draining the confidence.

What have I gotten myself into?  What am I doing this for?  I'm asking myself more frequently as the day draws closer and closer.  Need to work out something to psycho myself into believing the possibility!

Monday, July 15, 2013

Poetry: Shun Delays!

"My evil genius Procrastination has whispered me to tarry 'til a more convenient season." ~ Mary Todd Lincoln.

I guess I have been fooling myself by busying myself with other stuffs.  At the end, it simply meant I am procrastinating to get entries posted in my blog.   I'd like to share this poem which shall keep me reminded that time waits for no one.  It is time to shun any further delays!

Shun Delays! 
by Robert Southwell

Shun delays, they breed remorse; 
Take thy time, while time is lent thee; 
Creeping snail’s have weakest force; 
Fly their fault, lest thou repent thee; 
Good is best when soonest wrought, 
Ling’ring labours come to naught. 
Hoist tip sail while gale doth last, 
Tide and wind stay no man’s pleasure; 
Seek not time, when time is past, 
Sober speed is wisdom’s leisure, 
After-wits are dearly bought, 
Let thy fore-wit guide thy thought.

Thursday, June 20, 2013

My Bubble: A Half-Centurion's Wishlist

Oh yes, there is no denying that this baby-boomer will be qualifying into the half-centurion's club this year!  How I've managed to reach this point in life, still in one piece is quite a big blur to me.  I've become an amnesiac for the most part of my early years and I am pretty selective of my memories in the twenty-something and thirty-something years.  Forty-something is the most happening years of my life and if I can't fully retain these memories, then I guess I will have to start preparing for dementia ... sadly I do have a family history for that.

I am happy how life has turned out for me at the moment.  Why not?!  I am still married after 26 years, a son who's turned 22 and working on a future for himself, a beautiful home, family and friends.  Not forgetting too, I am retired to do anything I want, anytime, anyhow.  But these are common denominators of a life well-lived ... not yet to the fullest.

So before I hit the actual milestone, I figured I'd better get some real achievements into my gunny sack. While they may easily make it into my 50th Birthday wishlist I have prepared for myself, achieving them may require a lot of self-talk with myself!

1.  Kuantan Century Ride 2013 - a 160 km bicycle ride which unfortunately I had to forgo due to a hand injury.  I will claim this belated birthday present next year in Kuantan Century Ride 2014.

2.  Muar Cross-country Run 2013 -  The furthest I've ever participated in a running race was 12 km in Perth.  Thankfully, I managed to complete my first ever 21 km run in the town I grew up in.  No more such runs for me ... close shop!

3.  Register My Domain -  Yes I have done it!  After months of ficklemindedness, I've finally registered my own domain and my blog is now redirected to it ... www.wennyyap.com.  All the unnecessary worries about technical glitches and loss of traffic ... sometimes reading too much forum can be counterproductive.

4.  TMBT Ultra Marathon 2013 -  The Most Beautiful Thing Ultra-trail marathon to be held in Kota Kinabalu, Sabah where I hope to complete the 50 km challenge in one piece.  As it will be held in my birth month, this will be the ultimate birthday wish.

5.  Publish my first proper ebook -  I am in the midst of writing it and fingers-crossed, I'm able to say afloat with the ideas and inspirations. Toes-crossed, I'm able to complete and publish it within 2013.

Well it's only 5 items on my wishlist but should anything new give me the fancies, I won't have any qualms to add-on to the list.  So far 2 down, 3 more to go.  Wish me luck!

Friday, June 14, 2013

My Bubble: A Two-Month Silence

Looks like there's been a 2-month silence here on my blog.  Well, there has been one too many distractions and finally, I can sit and pen something.  Lest my blog-friends may think I have gone MIA.

Anyway, I had been part of a school reunion committee making preparations to celebrate our half-century mark in life together.  The turnout was way beyond our expectations along with most of our teachers whom we could locate.  Teamwork ensured everything went perfectly well.  Our theme for our reunion night was 50 & Sexy.  We even had a 'back-to-school' trip the following morning and were welcomed with performances by the primary kids from our alma mater.  Old memories were recalled and lost connections rekindled.  It was a complete success that suggestions were already flying among the attendees to celebrate our 60th birthday in as grand the style.  Well, 10 years may be a long time away but as we all know ... time flies when you are not watching. 

I was also not doing much article writing as I was concentrating on this book I was ghostwriting.  Several revisions were made to the draft and I am now waiting for the feedback on the last edit.  This book has taken longer than it was agreed upon and lucky for me the delay at been on the author's side.  Anyhow, my fingers crossed that the edits are accepted and I can expect the final payment soon.

Meanwhile, I have finally rearrange and change a bit of the look on my blog.  Firstly, I've finally gotten my own domain after months of thinking and this blog is now pointed to it.  Anyone who googles my name will have no problem locating my blog.  While there may be thousands with my name outside, I am happy that I at the top on the first page of Google.

At the moment, I am writing my second e-book and hopefully I can finished it within the next month.  I also have an unfinished work for the school reunion - a post reunion video which I am sure all my schoolmates are eagerly waiting for.  [Sorry MMGs for the snail pace!]

Tomorrow I will be hitting the road back to my hometown to participate in a cross-country run.  This is going to be the first 21km run that I've ever taken part in.  My training has taken so far taken me 16km and I certainly hope I can complete this run within the qualifying time of 3 hours.  Wish me luck!

Friday, April 12, 2013

Law of Attraction: Rebellion Can Be A Good Thing

I believe it is safe to say that mankind rebellion has been a prevailing presence since the time when Adam and Eve disobeyed God. Through the ages, rebellion continually happened and they have affected many people all over the world. Rebellion is provoked whenever there is oppression and injustice irrespective they are justifiable or malicious. As long as there is abusive power that wants to rob you of your freedom of rights, most people will resort to rebellion as the only solution.

But wait a minute! Rebellion has always basked in a negative light. It is a struggle and known to cause much suffering if not pain. In many cases, rebellion affects people more negatively and it is just unfortunate that some even led to violence where lives are spent. So how can it be said that rebellion is a good thing?

Rebellion can be as good as it is bad but only if it is taken up for a reasonable and worthy cause and handled appropriately. The end result may not be a fruitful success but at least there will be a noteworthy improvement. However, if you think it is easier to give up your freedom and take flight, you are accepting a life of conformity. Whether you accept defeat or fight on, the law of attraction will be in motion according to how you allow it to work for you.

But wait again! This is not about armed resistance, civil revolt or political subversion. It is about you and your personal rebellion to protect your birthright to be uniquely you. Personal rebellion is a good thing because it benefits anyone who seeks to change in order to improve their own lives. When you feel that your freedom to pursue what makes you passionate, inspired and happiest is suppressed or obstructed, it is just and worthy to rebel.

You must remember that violence can obliterate people but it can never destroy their ideas, ideals and desires. As such, you do not need to fight fire with fire as you may not achieve what you want at the end. As you may have heard that “the pen is mightier than the sword,” you can choose to rebel with educated subtlety. You already know and believe in what you want and you can use the law of attraction to help you retain and protect what you believe in.

The law of attraction is not a weapon but it is no less powerful and you only use it on yourself. It is a universal law that will help you identify with clarity your expectations and the meaning you give to the events, the people and the situations prevailing in your life. Your happy thoughts and emotions depend very much on how you choose to empower your expectations and these meanings. Often they may not sit well with the norm of your family or the society but that’s you. The more you give attention to your happy thoughts and emotions, the stronger the message you are sending to the Universe to return to you what you seek. To ensure that the law of attraction collaborate effectively with the Universe to help you in your rebellion, you will need to fulfill the following;

1. Set your intention: How clear are you about your ideas, ideals and desires? Know what you want and be a rebel with a cause. If you are half-hearted and inconsistent, it is going to be a fuzzy thought and emotion that you are giving to the Universe. It won’t work!

2. Believe that you are worthy: Do you think you deserve what you want? If you do not believe that you are worthy of the things you desire, then who else will.

3. Take action: How badly do you want to be authentically you ... a freedom to do and have according to your ideas, ideals and desires? You need to move forward with the appropriate actions.

4. Letting go: How much are you willing to sacrifice? You will have to be willing to leave the comforts of where you are now in order to fight for what you believe and want.

5. Celebrate milestones: Adopt an attitude of gratitude for whatever you have now and whatever you are going to achieve every step of the way. Sometimes it may be partial or slow, but it is still an achievement nonetheless.

In order to achieve a satisfactory success in your rebellion for what you believe in, you must have commitment – to stand by your ownership of the personal choices and the decisions you have made. Up next is to remove yourself from your comfort zone and start taking risks. Rebellion is a good thing as long as you can give yourself a just cause to start one.

Copyright © Wenny Yap 2013 All Rights Reserved. This article may be reproduced with my written consent, provided my name and link remain intact.

Thursday, April 11, 2013

Living Deliberately: Are You The Most Important Person In Your Life?

Definitely you love a number of people in your life. You love your parents, your kids, your siblings, your spouse or your boyfriend and even your BFF no doubt. This is where most people unwittingly develops a tendency to put others first rather than themselves. It’s not to say that it is right or wrong. Since your formative years, you have been taught to be selfless towards the people you love and your selflessness can be good as it can induce inner benefits. At least you know you are making a difference in someone else’s life.

But what happens when you have gone into the deep end and totally forgotten about yourself?

You have been selfless to others but you have been selfish with yourself. In such abandonment, you are neglecting your own needs, priorities and desires. You may find comfort in helping or putting others first but as long as you can still feel an emptiness or longing inside you ... there’s no denying that you have not been fulfilling your own wants. Are you not important to you?

You do! You matter because there’s only one unique you. You must realize that you are valuable to everyone around you, especially the people who loves you. Therefore you must remember to take care of yourself in order to be able to continue with your selflessness. There’s no written rule that says you can’t be a little selfish while being selfless at the same time.

Unfortunately people tend to associate selfishness in a very negative way. There is some truth in there but if you have already been conscientious in your ways, it is unlikely you will start to develop into an arrogant, egotistical braggart who runs down everyone in your path. It is just not you!

Be selfish positively and that means you are not going to accept anything less than what you would want for you. You will want the best relationships, the best career, the best home, the best travels and enjoy the healthiest food. You are not going to scrimp on yourself but willingly work hard and make necessary sacrifices for your self-improvement. With all these efforts, you are going to feel good about yourself inside. You can encourage yourself to take on challenges, make friends and become more outgoing. You exude confidence without any need to brag or boast.

You smile a lot and your positive attitude will draw people towards you. Now you can go on to be better at making a difference in other people’s life. Are you not important to you?

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Poetry: That I A Better Person May Be

That I A Better Person May Be
By:  Author Unknown

Light that lies deep inside of me
Come forth in all thy majesty
Show me thy gaze
Teach me thy ways
That I a better person may be

Darkness that lies deep inside of me
Come forth in all thy mystery
Show me thy gaze
Teach me thy ways
That I a better person may be

Love that lies deep inside of me
Come forth in all thy unity
Let me be thy gaze
Let me teach thy ways
That I a better person may be

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Living Deliberately: Create Your Own Perfection

What is perfection? Its meaning can be different to different people. Some take perfection to mean meeting the expectations set through traditions, cultures and religions. Some take perfection to be of certain physical embodiment according to family and societal standards. Some take perfection to mean doing and experiencing things that makes them happy. So what is your meaning of perfection?

Perfection means acceptance and when you create your own perfection – that’s your acceptance where you release all judgments over yourself and start loving you 100%.

It is hard and draining to find your own perfection when you continually strive to meet other people’s expectations. Whatever benchmark you are trying to attain is never your own and in such situations, you are best described to be living your life not for you, but instead for someone else. Can you honestly deem yourself to be happy with such a rigid life?

As Anna Quindlen said, “The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.”

Acceptance is achievable when you stop comparing as life is never a contest but an experience to be learned and share. The fact of the matter is that there is no standard for perfection. Whatever that had been expected of you is merely an illusion conditioned onto you since your formative years right into adulthood. Let go of this illusion and life will be perfect wherever you are at the moment.

When you create your own perfection, you start to live a more deliberate existence by honoring your own feelings, wants and desires. What others expect of you is immaterial as you give attention to yourself minus the guilt. You start to become more passionate at what you are doing, more motivated and inspired as you begin to achieve your own benchmarks. You will soon notice that your happiness has changed its course to flow from the inside out. Wouldn’t this make a more awesome existence?

Monday, April 8, 2013

My Bubble: A Rebel Chick - Healing Your Spirit With Positive Rebellion

Some time in January, I was utterly surprised by an email cordially inviting me to do a book review on A Rebel Chick by Lisa Marie Selow who's a professional psychic and spiritual coach specializing in liberating women to live empowered lives with more courage and authenticity.

I jumped at it and they sent me a copy of the book a few weeks later.  Unfortunately, the book came at a time when I was busy reviewing and revising the book that I am ghostwriting for another author.  Other small projects dotted in between and I couldn't get started on the book despite my eagerness and compelled responsibility.

Finally, I managed to sneak in the time and finished the book.  Interestingly this book is pretty much along the same concept of my ghostwriting project except that it is delivered in a different perspective and for a different readership.  Reading the book somehow managed to keep me motivated through my other projects as well.  It is indeed an interesting read that I will not hesitate to recommend to anyone ... especially the women folks who are looking for change in their attitude towards life.  It is very much in tune with my aspiration to help others move towards living life more deliberately and purposely in order to achieve inner joy and completeness.

When you think of a rocker chick, you think of a free spirited music loving woman who is tough and unconforming.  Well, this book is delivered through a rock chick's outlook that invokes rebellion against the norm but in a positive way.  Lisa calls it a 'positive rebellion' in order to find your own perfectionism ... living life according to your own standards and ideals.  Why not?  The truth of the matter is ... if you want change for the better you have got to rebel against what you do not like about your life now!  As Lisa puts it ... be a rebel with a cause and rock the world as you are meant to do!

Apart from sharing some of her friends' and clients' life changes in her book, Lisa also incorporated several exercises and quizzes to help you find your own path and rewrite your life story as you progress along the book.  You can deemed this book as your step-by-step guide to plotting and executing your rebellion and ultimately ... I know you'd be surprised with what you are going to find out about yourself.

You don't have to be a rock chick to seek rebellion.  As long as you want to change or improve your current way of life so that you can be more whole and complete from the inside out, then you'd find your answers in this book.  So get going to the bookstore now and look for this book, "A Rebel Chick Mystic's Guide."

Affirmation of the Week ...

There's so much I have been planning to do. Some done, some I've started and almost reach completion while there are some awaiting continuity. Several more are in the books waiting materialization and I am confident of getting them all done soon!

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

My Bubble: Where Have I Been?

Wow!!! It has been exactly 2 weeks since I last posted.  Sounds kinda like starting on a confession ... and what a timing since this is the Holy Week!

Holy Week, which commemorates the Passion of Christ, begins on Palm Sunday, which falls on March 24, 2013.  The Holy Week for this year will end on Holy Saturday which falls on March 30, 2013.

My blog has been taking a back seat of late due to my busy projects at hand and outdoor excursions.  I don't have anything in particular to post right now but just to wish all my Christian blog-frens "HAPPY EASTER!"

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Living Deliberately: What Do You See In The Mirror?

What do you see when you looked in the mirror every morning? Do you even stop for awhile to acknowledge the person looking back at you? If you do, do you like that person? Does he/she smile back at you or you see a grumpy person right in your face?

Everyone looks into the mirror quite automatically to see how they look in their clothes or if their hair is properly combed or if they have food stuck in their teeth or simply to adjust some malfunction in their appearance. However, you may not realize what you see in the mirror is not only your reflection looking back at you but it is also the reflection of your inner state of being. The mirror very often reflects the emotions that you have repressed. When you are not well-adjusted in the inside, it is difficult to be satisfied with what you see on the outside. You see, you can’t be negative and positive at the same time. Your emotions will somehow betray you.

To look good in your own eyes starts by feeling good on the inside and not the other way round as some would like to have you think. If you have an internal turmoil within you, whatever you see in the mirror upsets you despite others assuring you otherwise. No matter how well-groomed you are, you will always find a flaw somewhere. The rest of the day becomes a downward spiral robbing you of a fruitful day and subsequently a fruitful happy life in the long run.

Rather than wasting your time constantly feeling dissatisfied over what you see, try asking yourself how you can treat yourself better in order to heal the turmoil that is rocking your inner balance. Each person has their own reasons for their repressed emotions. Finding the answers and making the efforts towards healing yourself is an important step in living deliberately. Your immediate purpose is to be honest with yourself and respect yourself in order to find out how to treat yourself better.

While you undergo your healing process, enhance it by practising self-love – eating healthily and exercising regularly. Look after yourself the best you can and you will not have unnecessary reason to dislike what you see. You will regain your self-esteem and notice the person in the mirror smiling back at you with growing confidence. To boot, you will most definitely smile back at the person in the mirror.

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Poetry: Take Time

Take Time

TAKE TIME to think;
it is the source of power.
TAKE TIME to read;
it is the foundation of wisdom.

TAKE TIME to play;
it is the secret of staying young.

TAKE TIME to be quiet;
it is the moment to seek God.

TAKE TIME to be aware;
it is the opportunity to help others.

TAKE TIME to love and be loved;
it is God's greatest gift.

TAKE TIME to laugh;
it is the music of the soul.

TAKE TIME to be friendly;
it is the road to happiness.

TAKE TIME to dream;
it is what the future is made of.

TAKE TIME to pray;
it is the greatest power on earth.

A wonderful poem reminding us to take time to do the things we sometimes omit in our lives. Let this poem provide you with positive tips that will help your attitude if you implement them!

Monday, March 11, 2013

Affirmation of the Week ...

I am taking an attitude to be relaxed in everything I do. I feel so calm and enjoying the things I am doing at the moment.

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Sunday, March 10, 2013

My Bubble: Cheat On Me!

My affirmation for this week is "I look forward with excitement!"  Yes, indeed I am looking forward to two very important events in my life i.e. to cast my change-determining-vote in the coming General Election and the other, to celebrate my 50th birthday with my school/classmates with a bang.

While the date of the general election has yet to be determined, the Big-5-O Birthday Bash is already in planning for May 11th. I am so excited to meet up with my school/classmates whom I have not met since we left Form 5 ... some even longer since they left for other schools before that.  It must be age-related because so many that were mentioned just did not rekindle any schoolgirl images in my mind.  It is going to be fun trying to identify them one by one at the birthday bash!

Miss Red
I would said these excitements are just a piece of cake.  Truthfully, I don't think they require me to contribute much effort unlike exercising or should I be more specific ... riding my road-racer, Miss Red.  I love riding my bike, that is after I am already all saddled on the highway.  However, I realize that I have been making a lot of excuses and sometimes hoping for excuses to happen in order to avoid riding Miss Red.  In fact, I was so happy early this morning when it rained heavily that put stop to my early morning ride.  I am certainly not looking forward with excitement in this area.  Why am I cheating myself?

I can sum them up as follows;

1.  I lacked the confidence in my riding skills.
2.  I am fearful of falling and damaging Miss Red.
3.  I worry about other road users ... I've heard of several life-threatening incidents.

I need to change this attitude and it'd better be fast because I need to train as much as possible since I am already registered to join a 160km ride in Kuantan.

What Am I Grateful For This Week ...

It's very easy for us to take things and people for granted.  We take our parents for granted ... we take our spouse for granted ... we take the roof over our head for granted or even the clothes we wear for granted.  Yes, you'd think it sounds silly to even think that we take the ants for granted.

Talk about ants ... I have been at war with them for the past months.  They were everywhere in my home ... crawling over things that weren't even food or food that weren't even sweet!  Well as far as I know mineral water is not sweet ... right? Or am I wrong?

Since spraying insecticides didn't get rid of them, I found out over the internet that baby talcum powder can work to get rid of these pesky ants without causing any toxic effects on humans.  Indeed it work ... "I see dead ants!"  But these ants are smart ... I mean the new scouts sent out to comb for new trails in my house.  I had to dust the talcum everywhere that my house smells like a baby!  Thankfully, I believe I have won this war!  There are still some crawling around but there's just no chances given to them to return to their nest or their Queen ... I see I squash!

Irritating they may be but ants are an important component of our ecosystem for many reasons, one of which most people might fail to realise.  Ants serve a role in preventing the spread of diseases especially botulism by eating carrion.  Let's also not forget that they form part of a food chain so that we may have food to put on our table ... think about it.

There are so many things we can be thankful for each day ... small little things that we may think to be too insignificant but we should be.  What are you thankful for?

1.  I am thankful I have somewhat deterred the ants in my home but of course, I wouldn't want their total annihilation.

2.  I am thankful that I will be reaching the half century mark of my life this year and I am thankful that I will have the chance to celebrate it with a bunch of sexy 50-year-old girlfriends from school ... our plans for our big bash is in progress as I made this entry.

3.  I am thankful for being where I am today ... I've never imagine myself settling comfortably into an early retirement eventhough I'd always wished for it!

4.  I am thankful that my diabetic is under control ... my blood sugar may spike frequently but knowing why it happens and how to manage it gives me relieve and makes me happy and satisfied.

5.  I am thankful that I am still able-bodied for a host of healthy activities ... some days I run, some days I cycle, some days I power-walk and some days I work the stairs.  If I'm not into any of these, some days I am thankful I can be a couch potato!

Let me share with you that there have been studies that showed being thankful, even if you are just pretending, can raise the levels of serotonin and dopamine.  These are usually referred to as 'feel good' chemical that are associated with pleasure and contentment.  So live as if you are thankful for everything and let the real thing come to you!

Thursday, March 7, 2013

Poetry: Positive Life


Without dream and vision,
We have nothing

Without Love or being loved,
We feel Nothing

Without God and without friends,
We are nothing.

With dreams and Vision,
everything is POSSIBLE,
we achieve the more impossible things in life;

Never give up your dreams
I'm sure one day
You can achieve more than you ever dream.

With love and be loved,
we feel at the top of the world,
feel extremely good and ecstasy;

With God,
impossible becomes I'm possible,
And feel so wonderfully happy and so good.

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

Living Deliberately: Validate Yourself And Live A Deliberate Life

Empowering others to validate yourself is to live according to others’ expectation and approval. This is not life by your own design. So are you dependent on others’ approval and validation for your self-worth?

Everyone needs validation. It is absolutely normal as everyone has been constantly receiving validation since their birth. Loving parents consistently offer their validation to their children’s feelings, intelligence, interests, talents, compassion, intuitions and of course, achievements.

Unfortunately as your formative year progresses, you become accustomed to your parents’ validation that you take yourself for granted. Unknowing to you, you functioned more and more on auto-pilot while at the same time allowing the circle of people whom you seek to validate your values and actions to expand. You have forgotten about yourself – the only person who should be empowered to validate yourself after your parents.

To validate yourself is to accept, love and respect yourself. When this happens, you would have eliminated any internal conflict that is creating a disharmony in you – you are in harmony with what you believe to be right and just. Basically, you are at peace with yourself.

Not many people can realize internal harmony as most people struggle out of balance with their deepest values and passions. They are out of sync with their true self. If you want a deep sense of inner peace, you need to rediscover what is at your very core and build from there. You must discover your true self before you can move on to plan your life the way you want.

“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice” – Wayne Dyer

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Law Of Attraction: Validate Yourself To Receive Abundance

What do you connect self-validation with the law of attraction? Majority of people have an inherent and insatiable need for approval or validation. You may not realize it but this need or desire is a strong motivation force that moves and shapes you into the person that you are. There is nothing wrong with this as long as you know whose approval you are seeking.

Just think about it. If you do not validate yourself positively, how then can you expect another person or the world to give you the approval you seek? Even if it had been given to you, you’d probably reject the truth of it anyway!

To validate yourself is about accepting yourself – who you were, who you are now and who you are going to be. Validating yourself activates the law of attraction into action to attract more abundance into your life. External validation is always reassuring because it reinforces your view about yourself. However, self-validation is far more reassuring as it builds on your self-worth based on your solid foundation of self-approval. You are less likely to reject yourself because you are comfortable with who you are inside and outside. Validating yourself will feed your need to feel secure and confident allowing your life to flow in the positive direction.

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.” – Harvey Fierstein

Who you are and who you choose to become is your birthright. You should not allow yourself to be set upon by others to be someone you are not. When you are living a life constantly seeking approval from others, fear, anger, insecurity, anxiety and resentment emit from within you. Remember, the law of attraction does not filter these negative thoughts and emotions and charges into action to work with the Universe to attract more of the same to you.

When you accept yourself is to love yourself and this allows you to engage freely in positive thoughts and emotions from inside out. When you accept yourself, you will accept the people around you and the environment surrounding you. It is so much easier to be forgiving, non-judgemental and appreciative of what you have at the moment. You are living in a positive flow and again, the law of attraction will orchestrate with the Universe.

Your life will not get better on its own. Neither will it get better with a flick of your finger. To achieve your desires or to receive your abundance takes time and effort but most importantly, your life will only start to get better once you have started to treat yourself better. Your self-approval starts by forgiving yourself for past mistakes and you will need to be truthful with yourself on this. Do not compromise on your personal values and start appreciating yourself for all that you have accomplished so far. The law of attraction is never bias. It just follows your flows.

Monday, March 4, 2013

Affirmation of the Week ...

There are so several events or activities in the planning for the coming months. I am eagerly waiting with excitement for the days to come.

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Monday, February 25, 2013

Affirmation of the Week ...

I am living the life that I've imagined years ago. I am exactly where I want to be and I am relishing in the moment ... enjoying a peaceful existence, doing the things I love that somehow make the chores I do not like pretty much more bearable. Feeling alive, grateful and joyful is going to bring more abundance into my life.

This is my affirmation for the week ...

Friday, February 22, 2013

Poetry: Be The Best You

Be The Best You 
An inspirational poem from The Poetry Pad

We are perfectly imperfect
and beautiful within
because beauty isn’t skin deep
it’s deeper than the skin

We are who we allow ourselves to become
we get what we give, we give what we get
so give it your all
and don’t ever give up

Be the best you
be the person you want to be
just remember to be yourself
not who others want to see

This day is yours
it belongs to no one but you
put one foot in front of the other
and take a step closer
to making all your dreams come true

You are perfectly imperfect
and this is okay
because no one is flawless
no one is perfectly made

You are beautiful within
and your smile reflects
the love inside your heart
So, share a grin
and let others see who you are

Be the best you
just be who you are inside
be the person that makes you happy
and live your best life

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Living Deliberately: Has Your Life Gotten Lost In Translation?

Have you ever asked yourself, “What should I do with my life?”

If you had watched the movie “Lost in Translation” you could probably relate to the question and the movie's two main characters who are struggling to find the real meaning in their lives despite their circumstances. The movie follows a fading American film actor with a humdrum marriage and the bored wife of a photographer who had chanced upon each other in Tokyo and how they contemplate on their miserable situations as they spent their days together. What a complete helplessness in double proportions!

Undeniably, there are people who seek to find true love or the perfect mate but they don’t seem to find it. There are some people seeking to find the true meaning of life and they too can’t find it. Really, do you think what they are seeking is so elusive or impossible?

As Henry Ford puts it, “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t – you’re right!” So if you think you have not found your perfect mate or the meaning to your life, you are right! But think about it. Why is it possible for some to live the life you seek?

The reason is simple. You do not find the meaning of life by seeking but rather by giving your life a meaning. You have to change your perception because life does not come to you but you come to life by adding the excitement to your existence. To give your life the meaning it deserve you have got to create it. The meaning of life is within you … within me … within every one of us according to our own translations. Life can be as fascinating and liberating as you want it to be.

Stop blaming the world and others of oppressing your life and your happiness because when you do that, you are giving up on your ability to change your life. You are not as helpless as you want to think. Start taking responsibility as to how you want to translate your life into the reality that will make you happy. No one can do it for you except yourself. This is a journey you have to walk alone but optimistically, it is not entirely a lonely world for you. You can open up your life to people who are already living for love and excitement ... share their hopes, faiths as well as their desires for the future. Their emotions and energy can give one you the inspiration and motivation to move on, move forward and anticipate each morning.

Monday, February 18, 2013

Affirmation of the Week ...

I am so happy and grateful that I have more than enough abundance in all areas of my life. There are so many things that I've never had that have appeared in my life today. I shall continue to be open to whatever the Universe has prepared for me keeping my head and heart in the positive mode.

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Saturday, February 16, 2013

What Am I Grateful For This Week ...

I found that having an attitude for gratitude allows me to enjoy the abundance that are already existing in my life. That's why I believe if we focus regularly on the things we are grateful for, we are able to attract more things to be grateful for even if they are not necessarily according to our expectation.

Frankly it doesn't cost a thing to practise an attitude for gratitude.  Gratitude is free and it prevails in everyone.  We just need to recognise and acknowledge the things in our lives that bring us satisfaction and joy.  It is a way to arrive at our happy place by appreciating life in the present moment and to enjoy life in the present moment.  When we have finally arrive at our happy place, then the easier it is for us to spot the opportunities that are laid in front of us.

So, do you recognise the things in your life that you are grateful for?

Since I started making a conscious effort to practise gratitude every day no matter how small they are, I have become a calmer person and always striving to look at the positive side of unfavorable situations.  I have also learn to live my life specifically for myself according to my own terms.

There was a very black spot in my life some years back.  While I may not have wanted it to happen at all, the most dreaded had happened and it cannot be undone.  Today I am grateful that it became a turning point in my life ... an eye-opener that prompted a big change in my life.  I am thankful that I am making conscious efforts to maintain a healthy lifestyle.  I am thankful that I am able to walk, run, swim and cycle to keep my diabetes in check.  Rather than concentrating on things that I do not have, I am grateful that I have so many things that I've never had before to make me happy and feeling satisfied.

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Poetry: Magic In You

Magic In You
An inspirational poem from The Poetry Pad

Don’t ever give up on
what’s in your heart
Don’t ever let go of
What it is you believe in
Don’t ever say the road is too tough
And that it’s better to quit

Don’t ever think that you don’t matter;
Because you’re important to me
Don’t ever let anyone tell you
That you can’t follow your dreams

Don’t ever think that the world
Doesn’t need someone like you;
You’ve touched my heart and my life
Just by being who you are
And the things you do.

There’s a magic in you
That no other could possess.
A quality, a warmth, a sparkle
That will carry you through life’s tests

There’s a magic in you
That makes you special to me.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Law Of Attraction: It Starts With Believing

Everything that you decide to do, it all starts with you. It all starts with your belief in yourself. It all starts with your trust that you are doing the right thing. All the achievements in your life come about by first building on your belief. Your belief is the blueprint of your desire and the law of attraction is the creative process that is going to make it become your reality.

Your belief is a powerful thing and when you combined it with the law of attraction, anything you can conceive you can achieve. Believe it or not, this universal law has been around for centuries working hand-in-hand with your thoughts and emotions at every second of your life. What you see happening in your life today was first created in your thought. A belief is just a thought that you have activated and given a lot of your attention and focus over a period of time. The primary basis to the law of attraction is that whatever you continually focus your attention on is manifested as your reality. That’s the easiest way you will understand the concept of “like attracts likes.”

Majority of people harbor countless beliefs, many that are instilled by others and many they themselves are not even aware of. Generally, you may strongly believe that something positive is going to happen for you or just the exact opposite, you are certain that something bad is going to happen to you. Either way, you accept that the situation is true because it is your belief. What you believe will happen in your life irrespective you are conscious or unconscious but when your belief starts to hold you back from achieving the things you want in life, it is a limiting belief that you would need to reboot at the soonest. A limiting belief is still your belief. The only difference is that you have accepted the fact that what you want is just too impossible to be happening for you. Your entire attention and focus just zoom in on all that is negative and the law of attraction kicks in to maintain you in the unfavorably receiving end.

If you want to turn around any undesirable things that are stuck in your life and start pursuing a life that is more rewarding, you have to change the kind of belief you are holding on to. Your belief influences your emotions and actions. Positive beliefs generate positive emotions and inspire you into action. Negative beliefs draw negative emotions and certainly do not inspire any actions. If there are at all, they are often times self-sabotaging. The law of attraction does not differentiate between the positive and the negative as it works any which way. However, you will be glad to know that you can guide the universal law to work for you.

Don’t you think you already know which type of belief you should possess? Then you should also know that it is entirely up to you to change your type of belief now. No other person can do it for you. Remember, if you can find the time to create negative thoughts to sabotage your life, you can actually do the same to create positive thoughts that can improve your life. So choose wisely and use the law of attraction to your advantage.

Monday, February 4, 2013

Affirmation of the Week ...

As I am preparing myself to face an untested challenge sometime later in the year, preparation of the mind and body is very important. I choose to start now!

This is my affirmation of the week ...

Sunday, February 3, 2013

Living Deliberately: Are You Intent To Begin Your Deliberate Journey?

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” – Lao-tzu. The intent of this ancient phrase is very clear. No matter how large your task, no matter how far the distance, no matter how insurmountable the challenge may seem to be, it all starts with just one step. The crux of it is that if you don’t try, you are not going to achieve or overcome anything.

Living deliberately is as easy or as hard anyhow you want to think of it. No one should be deprived from living the life they want as long as it is not out of this world. It is your birthright! When you have made the decision that you want to live your way, you will take deliberate actions to look for positive aspects in everything that surrounds you, everything that you are doing and every experience that you come across. As you continually focus on all that are positive, you will notice your thoughts and emotions improving positively, changing your perspective and increasing your motivations. It does not matter if it is going to be tough or otherwise, you become confident that you can do it as long as you are intent to pursue it.

You make your life deliberate when you give it a purpose, your attention and how you choose to respond to every moment. Being intent to live your life deliberately means you have acceptance and appreciation of whatever life is throwing at you and you are intent to find the opportunities in them. Irrespective they are simple or complicated you can trust you are stronger than how you’re seen.

So are you intent to begin your journey to live the life as you desire?

My Bubble: I'm Feeling The Pressure!

It’s actually another 7½ months away which rightfully gives me ample time to train but I am still making myself all stressed out!

Yup, I’ve signed up to accompany lo kong for an ultra-trail marathon in Sabah called “The Most Beautiful Thing.” An adventure challenge taking place in Kota Kinabalu on 14th & 15th September, it’s either to go for the 25km, 50km or 100km. We have registered for the 50km which must be completed within 15 hours. I am really really scared since the furthest I’ve ever run was only 12km and this is not a road run either. It is something that I’ve never done before!

I know this pressure is not doing me any good. I am already feeling under the weather the past weeks and it’s preventing me from training properly. Gosh, I’ve just got to work myself out of this pressure cooker and soon!

Saturday, February 2, 2013

What Am I Grateful For This Week ...

It's been several weeks since I have posted my gratitude list.  Oh no, it's not that I do not have anything to be grateful for!  There's just always something ... anything ... even something you'd think is insignificant.  However having an appreciative attitude in life, we learned that what we may take for granted someone else may be praying hard to have.

So folks, my blog friends ... let's not take things for granted anymore.  Awake each morning to a brand new day with gratefulness and give thanks even if it is just putting both our feet on the floor first in the morning.  I try every day to make this practice ... "Thank you Lord for this brand new day where I will continue to enjoy your blessings and make amends for the mistakes of yesterday."

Practise gratitude because it makes us happy.  The more we practise it, the more the effect gets to us.  Yes this is true!

People who approach life with a sense of gratitude are constantly aware of all that is wonderful in their life. Because they enjoy the fruits of their successes, they seek out more success. And when things don't go as planned, people who are grateful can put failure into perspective.

So are you grateful for today?

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Poetry: I Don’t Want to Miss It …

I Don’t Want to Miss It ...
by mother4peace - Christine
This is a poem extracted from No-Sugar Added® Poetry

I have two angels in my life
And a love too
And I DON’T want to miss it
I want to see this story through

I want to be there for the science fairs, spring concerts
The boo boos, the flu, to catch them when they fall
The birthdays, graduations, weddings, grandchildren
And not miss a thing, see it all

I want to grow old with him
To be his gray-haired old friend
All wrinkly and prune-like
When we reach our eternal end

I want to be there just in case
My greatest fear becomes real
To carry some of the burden
To understand how it feels

I’m too stubborn to give in
And committed to endure
So I take my daily steps
In hopes WE find a cure

I am a mother
I am a wife
I am a diabetic
And I don’t want to miss any of it.

Monday, January 28, 2013

Living Deliberately: Make Life Happen Your Way

Some people may have the opportunity to live the life they love … one that’s filled with fun, freedom and opportunities. However, this kind of life isn’t out of reach for you once you’ve decided to take a chance to remove yourself from the familiar.

Taking a chance to remove yourself from your comfort zone does not have to be a drastic and shocking move. It can be gradual, kind and life-affirming. If you really envision yourself living the kind of life you love, then start with simple steps as follows:

1. Take responsibility – Accept the fact that you created the life you are living. Once you have embraced this fact, you can begin to make small changes to what you are doing now. You have the wonderful gift of choice and over time, these choices you manage responsibly will add up to change your life.

2. Break the habits – Most people become comfortable with routines that they tend to take things for granted and make unconscious decisions. It is time to break these habits that are drowning out your inner voice – your gut feelings that will lead your thoughts and actions. It will offer you the opportunity to evaluate, plan and take action towards the life you want.

3. Listen to yourself – Do you hear yourself frequently using phrases like ‘if only’, ‘I can’t’, ‘maybe one day’ or ‘how I wish’? Do you find all your conversations are focused on how unfair life is or how unlucky you are? Watch your language because it creates a mental picture of how you see yourself and your world. If you catch yourself doing it next, change your choice of words and you’ll start to notice how your life will begin to change too.

4. Spend your time and money thoughtfully – Sometimes the life you want costs money and takes time to happen. Patience and prioritizing will get you there if you are thoughtful about how you manage your time and spend your money.

5. Say goodbye to clutters and chaos – Many people are stucked with crappy job, toxic friends, dead-end routines, regrets and disappointments. These things keep the drama going and your life busy. Decide what matters, what you believe in and value, afterwhich you can start saying goodbye to those that are not.

6. Support from the like-minded – You will need support to face the changes you make. Find like-minded people who will share your journey. Don’t be disappointed or worry if there are those who do not support or share your new outlook. To live the life you want isn’t about fitting in.